justagirl: annyeong Sasha-ssi~
well.. um.. i want an advice from you~ hehehe i need someone who really can understand my situation so.. it's like this...

I had this crush for a boy whose older than me by 2 year I've just like him for 1 year. We don't know each other but in Facebook we're friends.. I guess it's just that he accept all request friends?... I always looked at him from far away.. I’m not the kind of girl who can get all hyper and just talk to someone who’s older than me, but I really want to get to know him because I think if I don't know him, I may not have the chance of him liking me back. recently I heard that he is close to this one particular girl all the time and that got me thinking "maybe he likes her" well I tried to shook that thought away but again recently.. In school.. I had this little incident happen... it was at school. Break time. I saw him with my guy classmate, that guy classmate quite close to me as he knew that I liked him but the thing I don't trust him much since he was the dude who almost spill my secret before. so I saw him together with my crush and I was with my 2 bffs, the thing about my best friend is that they like to tease me but they don't like it when I tease them. And right at that time, my friends started to tease me saying "Hey! [my guy classmate name]! [my name] is jealous of you!" they started to shout that like as if they were the only one there... it was freakin' in the field! there's a lot of seniors and people man! sigh... i was embarrassed but at least at that time i'm still trying to keep my pride... after break time finished i went to my classmate the dude. i asked him

me : "hey you didn't tell [my crush name] anything right?!"
him: "chill.. i didn't tell him anything. your secret is safe.."
me: "did he hear and say anything about it?"
him: " he heard what [my 2 best friends name] said but he didnt say much he was just like. 'pfft. like if i care'"

and like this i had this thought "he's kind of.. mean.. i think.."

so what do you think? do you mean he's mean? do you think i had no chance with him? do you think may be i should give up?
uh well.. sorry if it's kind of .. long~ nice to meet you chingu~

Friend: Dear justagirl,

I see that you have two options here, but I’ll tell you about those later. First of all, the boy isn’t mean for saying he doesn’t care. It actually shows that he’s a pretty mature person for not getting worked up over something that 2 girls, he doesn’t know, decided to shout. Then again, since you said you can’t really trust that guy friend of yours, you may not know if he’s lying to you on what your crush has said.

You only assumed that your crush likes that girl he was talking to but you never know. Maybe they’re just really close friends. Maybe she likes him and is trying to actually talk to him. Or maybe they’re just lab partners and are just talking about their project. Assuming things will do no one any good and it’s better to know the truth. Don’t go up and ask if they’re dating! If they’re just friends then that question can just make your relationship with him even more awkward and he’ll assume that you’re obsessive and clingy, wondering why you want to know his business. For now, don’t let a simple thing get to you. Our minds imagine things far worse than they actually are, so maybe the two of them are just friends and that’s it. Don’t sweat it.

Now your first option I’m gonna give you is to go out of your comfort zone and break free of your shell -  start talking to him(: You don’t have to run up to him in the middle of the halls and start an hour long conversation. A simple smile if you guys meet eye contact can be a subtle but sweet thing to do. If you’re all up for it, get your guy friend to introduce the two of you. That way you won’t feel awkward and you can freely talk to him afterwards seeing as the two of you now know one another. After the introduction, you can start saying hi to him in the halls. Don’t become one of those obsessive fan girls and say hi to him 24/7(that's probably going to scare him or creep him out ._. ) ! Just a simple, “morning” or a wave can start things off right(: When a legitimate conversation starts, get to know him. You can ask if he listens to this band or that. If you guys have the same interest, you can share a song and post it on his Facebook wall ;)

Believe it or not, guys like it when the girl plays hard to get. I’m not telling you to go and ignore the kid and pretend to have a boyfriend, that’s a big NO. Guys hate it when the girl tries to make him jealous. When I say hard to get, I just mean to not seem desperate. Try not to talk to him every single hour of the day. You can say hi to him, and maybe talk every other day or so, but don’t go overboard. I know you might be thinking, “But I want to talk to him really badly today and tomorrow and after tomorrow…” Be patient(:

Your second option is to just give up on the boy. You say you’ve liked him for a whole year and yet there has been no progress between you two. Can you guys even call yourselves friends? Acquaintances? Or are you two strictly Facebook friends? This kind of relationship will get you nowhere and I recommend simply moving on. Wasting your time on one guy can really blind you from the rest of your life.  I’m guessing that you’re still in high school so you still have plenty of time to find another crush that you can actually start conversing with(:

By moving on, it’ll open so many more doors for you! You can open your eyes and finally see what you’ve been missing out on since most of your attention has probably been on your crush. You’ll feel like there’s this weight that’s been lifted off your shoulders and you don’t have to constantly worry about him and what he’s doing. And who knows, maybe you’ll find yourself crushing on someone else ;)

Now before you start doubting yourself and think anything negative, like you having no chance with him, just STOP. Girls are almost always insecure about themselves and worry that the guy they like will never like them back. But I’ll tell you this; every girl has a chance with any guy, no matter how small or how big. The amount depends on your situation with the other party and how much you’ll willing to fight for it. No girl should back out of the race before it even started because in the end, you’ll never know what can happen(:

I wish you luck justagirl :)

~(Chingu) 친구