SadandRegretful: I have a crush on my friend, he's in a grade above me and he's 1 year older. We were in this special school/class together and we acted like best friends. he would kind of tease me like a boyfriend would to his girlfriend, we would chase each other down the hall and outside, we would make random videos with 2-3 other friends and we would laugh about the most randomest things. He would let me color on his shirt or something like that. But then the last day of school came, he was going off to high school and at the time I didn't know I was moving 40 minutes away at the end of summer. He knew I liked him, he still treated me the same as before(A Best Friend), now I don't have any contact with him what-so-ever and I miss him! I regret not asking him out/confessing my love again on the last day of school. I would do anything for him in a heartbeat, and I would dream about him, and I also got jealous when he ex/current gf would get in the picture or was mentioned.
Anyways, I just want help on how to get over this  and your opinion on how our friendship is/was.
I mentally cry every day because I can never see him or talk to him and I'm sad even MORE because I missed the chance to really ask him out.

Friend: Dear SadandRegretful,

It’s hard getting rid of those forlorn feelings of your previous crush, but it isn’t impossible(:

The fact that he treated you the same way like he did before, has several meanings behind it. He could’ve just not felt the same way about you and simply wanted to move past it. As a guy, he found it easier to try and avoid the situation rather than confront it. After all, if you’re put in his shoes would you be the one to tell one of your best friends that you aren’t interested in them? Talk about awkward. However, another reason might have been that he in fact didn’t know how you felt. Maybe you believed that you were giving him obvious hints that you liked him, but guys aren’t always ones to pin point them out. He might have heard some things but maybe he’s one of those people that doesn’t believe anything unless they hear it from the person themselves(:

If you guys have lost contact with one another, than it should be easier to move on. The only reason you are guilt ridden and are constantly regretting your decision, is because you are thinking about the matter a lot more than it ever should be thought of. If you sit there doing nothing but thinking about the past, that won’t do you any good. We can’t turn back time no matter how badly we want to, because time is meant to move ahead and it’s your choice to stay behind or move on alongside it(: We all have made mistakes that we regret, but they all happen for a reason and we can’t change the past.

One way to ease your mind off of this is something I tell all of my friends; keep yourself occupied. Go hang out with some friends, spend some time with your family, heck go read or write a fic here on AFF. Anything that’ll keep your mind busy and away from those thoughts will be a big help. If you keep your mind active with other things in mind, your brain won’t have any time to ponder on the past(:

If you’re really seeking some closure, then why not ask some of your friends if they still have contact with this guy. If they do, then you guys can try and catch up and see if you can get some closure to put your mind at ease. Technology can also play a big role and he might even have a Facebook, Twitter, MySpace, etc. However, I want to warn you to not think of the past and use this opportunity and think that things will be exactly like they were before. He and you are definitely not the same people you were before, so feelings may have changed along some other things. Starting off by asking simple questions like, “How’ve you been” can be a good step in the right direction(:

If I may give you a word of my own, I think that you should move on and put this little incident behind you. He may have been one of your best friends and a crush, but it’s not like it’s going to be the end of the world SadandRegretful! You have so many years ahead of you and it’s not like this is your one and only chance at finding a boyfriend. How many people do you know that have said their first love was their last? The majority of the people will say no and chances are, so will you(: You’ll come across many crushes and loves until you’ll find the perfect guy who will be your prince charming from then and onwards(: Don’t let such a troubling past hold you back SadandRegretful, just keep your head up high ;)

Sorry for replying to your letter so late SadandRegretful, I’ve been very busy >_<

Take care(:

~(Chingu) 친구