WorriedGirl : I am worried my sister lately. She is following some book about losing a few pounds and grow few inches. Not only that but, she is also using some sort of creme to light her skin tone. I am getting worried, this doesn't seem like the sister i know from a year ago; the one who didn't care about her appearance and which i need to remind constantly to put some lipgloss on when going to a party. Last night she told me about saving money and later getting plastic surgery for her nose. I don't know what happen to her.   

Friend: Dear WorriedGirl,

To start off I really applaud you for being such a good older sister, it really shows me that you greatly care for her(: However, I think that your sister might just be going through a phase in her life, in which all of us girls go through from time to time. The only advice I recommend is to stand beside her and make sure she goes in the right direction and doesn’t take a wrong turn(:

Right now, your sister’s view on beauty simply changed. Before, she was the girl, like you said so yourself, who didn’t care about her appearance. Maybe she’s found a boy she wants to impress or just wants to view herself as someone “beautiful.” Her view on this matter includes being a little slimmer, taller, and paler. Although I don’t think there is any scientific method for making you physically grow like her magazine said, there are ways to lose weight in a healthy manner. Figure out what regimen she is following in order to lose weight and make sure she does so in a healthy way (ex. exercising and not starving herself). If you want to keep an eye on her in this, why not recommend the two of you going for a jog or exercise together(: Easy and simple way to even bond a little and figure out what’s going on in your sister’s mind.

Like I said so before, I think that this might just be a phase. She said she’s saving up money to get plastic surgery but you don’t know she’ll be thinking this 5 years from now. If you’re really against the thought of your sister’s decision, try to be the mature one and sit down with her. Explain to her that you don’t think she should be saving up money for such a thing that she doesn’t need. If she’s worried about her nose being huge or too small or whatever the case might be, tell her it isn’t. Her mind is just so set on pointing out her flaws that she doesn’t see the beauty she already holds(:

Although I’m happy she has such a caring older sister for her, I want to warn you and recommend that you don’t go too into your sister’s business. We all want our own privacy and we all have things we want to keep to ourselves, this being one of the cases. Don’t be one of those siblings that act like the strict nanny, give your sister some freedom and trust her to make the right choices. Even if she does make a wrong turn, she’ll learn from it(: You’re main goal is to stand by her side and show her that you love and care for her(:

Hope everything goes well for you and your sister WorriedGirl(:

~(Chingu) 친구