Anonymous: I need help sorting my problems out. I like this one guy and he's a really big flirt and I mean REALLY BIG. So even though he flirts with me, I still get irritated when he flirts with other girls because I have a temper. I want to stop liking him, but I can't! What should I do? I think there's something wrong with me...please help?

Friend: Dear Anonymous,

We have all encountered those guys who think that every girl is “their” girl and treats them all like so. There’s nothing wrong with you for falling for a flirt! It’s because of their flirtatious ways that we think that we’re special to them and fall for their act. However, once you see through it then it’s easier to walk away. Believe it or not, getting over this flirt can be a piece of cake(:

First let me tell you Anonymous that there shouldn’t be any reason for you to get irritated or even jealous when he talks to other girls in the same way as he does to you. Why? Because he isn’t worth it. What you see as a loving hug, may seem like a typical good-bye hug to him. He probably does this to other girls and sees it as nothing special – so neither should you.

Getting over a crush can be hard, depending on the situation, but it is never impossible Anonymous(: I bet you this guy is always swimming in your thoughts right? If you’re just sitting there at home with nothing to do, you just randomly begin to think about him, am I wrong? Well here’s a way to get over him and that’s to - forget about him. The easiest way to forget about something is to counteract the thought with something else. What I mean by that is to keep yourself occupied(: Doing something little like reading a book or having a girl’s night out with your friends can go a long way. Do something different for a change and keep yourself busy. You’ll be so focused on having so much fun that if that guy does pop up in your thoughts, you can just push it aside and think, “Bye boy.”

This might end up being like a slap in the face for this flirt but it’s the easiest way to end this vicious cycle – friendzoning him. I know, rough isn’t it? But it’s an easy solution that can help him understand that you aren’t the type of girl he can just tease and expect to hear from her the following day. Doing something small like saying, “You’re a good friend” or “You’re like a brother to me” can easily send the message across. If he invites you to a movie or anything ask, “Who else is coming?” To let him know that you took it as a friendly invite and not a date. It might take a few tries but after some effort, he’ll understand that you aren’t one of those easy girls he can innocently flirt with. Who knows? Maybe he’ll stop his flirting ways and you guys can end up being friends(:

Keeping a little distance doesn’t hurt either. If you’re always the one to text him first, then don’t. He knows he has you and some other girls in the palm of his hands, waiting for one of you to text him, “Hey ;]” If he hits you up first, feel free to reply. I’m not telling you to ignore him and pretend he doesn’t exist, I just want you to try to open your mind and realize that there are more things around you and better ways to spend your time than wait for him to say hi first.

Getting over a crush that always says sweet nothings can be hard Anonymous, but you just need to stand your ground and realize you don’t need someone who treats you like every other girl(: So sorry I couldn’t reply to your letter sooner >< Take care(:

~(Chingu) 친구