Anonymous:how do i start this.
I don't want rumours to start in school, but my friends kept asking me about the guy i like.
I don't really want to tell them so i gave them hints instead.
if they really guess the correct person, then what should i do?
But how about those people that know about it already? What should i do too?
Thankyou sho much in advance! C:

Friend: Dear Anonymous,

What can I say? Once someone knows your business it seems like everyone does and rumors just continue to pop up like mushrooms. However, it’s pretty easy to clear em up and let them die down(: Here’s how:

If you don’t want to tell your friends who you like then you don’t have to. You shouldn’t be forced to tell people something you don’t want to tell them. If you want you can keep the secret to yourself and not even give any hints about the person. If they guess the right person then you have two options: either lie and say no or let the truth come out.

I never advise friends to lie to one another so I wouldn’t recommend lying. Instead I would tell you to tell them that you don’t want to tell anyone about your crush. Be honest and tell them that you don’t want word getting around. Your second option is to be honest and tell them that yes it’s him but for them to promise not to let anyone else know. They might be those who say, “Aw can’t I tell ___? They’re good friends and they can help you out!” Don’t let such a thing tempt you. If you don’t want people knowing them it’s your decision (and your secret).

Now onto those people who already know. To start off, it isn’t even any of their business on who you like and who you don’t like. These people are just nosy gossipers, hunting for some prey to talk about. Don’t give them the upper hand anonymous. Simply brush off their remarks and if they ask you about your crush, reply to their question with a question of your own; “Why do you need to know this?” Or simply reply with, “It isn’t any of your business.” It may seem mean but they need to understand that this matter doesn’t concern any of them and you aren’t willing to give out such information.

And besides, If your crush heard of the rumors and sees you behaving maturely and acting nonchalant about it, he might be curious about you and either ask himself or let the rumors die down as well ;]

So sorry I couldn’t get to your letter sooner Anonymous >_< Merry Christmas and a Happy New Years!

~(Chingu) 친구