TheHopelessFangirl: Annyeong, chingu!^^ My problem is like, every other fangirl's problem. I have a crush on this idol. And I think it's getting deeper. You may think I'm crazy, but well, I almost came to the time that I thought I had fallen in love with him. And I know it's not possible... right? It's like I remember him and smile then something just pops into my mind like 'Hey, you're not supposed to be thinking that it's possible for you and him to meet.' Like DUH?! I'm just a normal and ordinary person and he's an idol. AN IDOL. I know that my 'problem' might sound crazy but... it's what I feel. I just feel sad everytime my stupid mind reminds me that I'm hopeless. Thank you for reading this, chingu... I just wanted someone to hear this and give me advice. More powers to this!^^
P.S.- What do I do? :(

Friend: Dear TheHopelessFangirl,

There’s nothing wrong with having a crush on a bias, it’s because their company makes them so desirable that such attractions come out from us. Yet there should always be a litmit between being a loving supporter to a crazy saesang fan. Have no fear TheHopelessFangirl, you’re “broken heart” is actually not broken at all(:

Like I have said above – you aren’t actually in love with them TheHopelessFangirl. We view idols on stage as someone who is hot, beautiful, cute y, etc. and our common sense is shadowed over our lust. Point being – they’re pretty much just eye candy and like every darn sugary treat that’s out there – we all have a craving for it. Yet can you really say you love them? Love is something so much more complex than having a giant crush on the person based on their appearance. We may see idols showing great kindness and other wonderful traits on variety shows, yet we don’t know them wholly as a person. If anything, we don’t know them at all. For all we know, those people you see on TV may not actually be who they are portrayed to be. I am not at all bashing on kpop celebrities or calling them fake by any means, I’m just trying to get the point across that if you don’t know them as a person, how could you say that you love them?

Admiring someone is different TheHopelessFangirl. If you have high admiration for someone because of their voice, acting, dancing, etc. Then that isn’t love. Please try to not confuse the two >_< Whenever a guy or girl has something that makes them more attractive, that little spark of admiration is often mistaken for love. Just because they seem like they’re the whole package – with their looks and talent – doesn’t mean that they are someone that we love to an extent of actually being in love with said person. I know this may just sound like a bunch of jibberish to you TheHopelessFangirl, but do you understand what I’m saying?

Imagine if you were an idol yourself (how cool would that be?!), wouldn’t you rather have a ton of supportive fans rather than those crazy saesang fans that follow them around and confess their love to you at every corner?

One thing that can get you off this road is to keep yourself occupied. Just like trying to get over a crush, you just need to get your mind to stop thinking about them(: Go out with some friends, hang with family, do something you usually wouldn’t do and just have fun. Get your mind to lay off the kpop for at least half of the day and you’ll find yourself at more ease. I know kpop is pretty addicting @_@ but if you focus too much on that one thing, your life is going to just whizz right past you. Enjoy and cherish every moment of it, don’t be the one kid who stays in his/her room their entire childhood not even once stepping out to smell the roses :P

So sorry I couldn’t get to your letter TheHopelessFangirl >< With the new year around the corner, maybe trying to go out for a change with some friends can be your new years resolution(: Merry Christmas and Happy New Years TheHopelessFangirl :D

~(Chingu) 친구