Shy,Artsy girl: Hi, first off I love the way your advice coloum works. It's simply amazing.

Well my problem is; that I'm very shy. I'm insanly shy around people, expect my three best friends at school.
I have a few guys that always confess to me because I'm that 'cute, shy, smart, arsty, exotic type', but I always reject them because they don't really know me. Since they never aproach me in a real conversation or anything along those lines, and I absolutly hate that -.-
Recently a new guy came to school, and he's exactly the type of guy I like -sweet, considerate, nice to everyone, athletic,slightly rocker-ish, he even consider my crazy kpop-ness and listens to it with me-. He's really nice to me and I am very comfrotable around him. He knows me inside and out -I think maybe even better then my best friends- it's been a month since we've beenv good frineds like that; and he recently confessed to me.
For some reason I'm really scared that he likes me. I've never really had boyfriend before, more like potential boyfriends but they never went anywhere past the relationship level. I also have a lot of trust isues.
It's been a week since he conffesed and he's letting me think about it. I really don' know what to do. Usually I just say 'no' righ off the bat. But I'm really considering it this time.

Friend: Dear Shy,Artsy girl,

We’re all different in this world and there’s no problem with being who you are. Some people express themselves by using their voice and others do so through other things. You don’t have to be the loudest one in the class so being shy isn’t always a problem(: Being different makes you unique which in term lets you stand out(:

First off, I give you props for being a strong girl. Standing up for yourself and rejecting guys that don’t know you that well, PREACH IT GIRL. LOL just kidding, but really it’s quite admirable that you do that instead of those girls who just go into a relationship with just anyone.

If this guy will (if you decide to accept him) be your first boyfriend, then that explains why you’re scared and nervous about this. It’ll be your first relationship! That’s always the scariest thing to do, starting something new for the first time. No one’s forcing you to go head straight into this and if you don’t think you’re ready, then just be honest and say so. When the right time comes, it’ll definitely come and you’ll be happy that you waited for the right time when you’re prepared(: The way I see this, based off of how you’re describing everything, this guy seems like a really nice guy to try and take a risk for ;] He shows the good qualities in a guy and since you’re comfortable around him and he’s willing to wait for you – those are just more plus points to add next to his name. If you want to go for it, then go for it! ;]

No one’s rushing you to get a boyfriend Shy,Artsy girl. Even if it seems like everyone in high school is in a relationship, there are actually a lot more single people out there than we imagine. Take your time and choose whatever you think is best for you Shy,Artsy girl(:

Also, thank you for your kind words in the beginning of the letter(: I’m so sorry it took so long to reply to >< Hope everything goes well for you(:

~(Chingu) 친구