Guilty: Alright, so this is a long story to tell...
First of all, it started when my friends and I went to the park to hang out. We like teasing each other in a fun way and we laugh at each other's mistakes. But this time... I went too far. I honestly didn't mean to do it, it just kind of slipped since I'm so used to it.
We were just having a fun time, then one of my friend's sister came with her friend who happens to be my other's friend's crush's sister. Was that too confusing? Anyways, we were talking about her brother aka my friend's crush, then I accidentally state too loudly about her little crush on him. Unfortunately, his sister heard and my friend wasn't too happy about it.
I apologized a lot and she said it wasn't okay in a joking kind of way. She was laughing still, but I could tell that she was hurting a lot. After I got home, she texted me saying that she forgave me and that everything was all good, but I still can't help but worry that when we go back to school, everyone will know since the guy's kind of popular. I even told my crush that I liked him since I wanted things to become even, but he isn't popular. What should I do???? :(

Friend: Dear Guilty,

First off, I had to draw myself a diagram to follow with who came to the park that day LOL. Second of all, it’s ok Guilty we all make mistakes in life. The best thing to do is to learn from them and fix them which you have already done(: Seeing as the guilt’s still eating you alive, there are some ways to help lessen it.

I want to tell you that just by telling your own crush that you like him, it won’t do anything. I mean, if you put yourself in your friend’s shoes how would you react if she did the same thing? Wouldn’t really affect her now would it? But I see where you were trying to go with it. Now, onto the problem itself:

You are truly blessed to have such a friend Guilty. She was kind enough to forgive you and didn’t make a scene out of the situation at hand. The best thing to do when you blurted out her secret was to try and act like you were all just joking. Your friend tried to head towards that direction by laughing it off but you only panicked and apologized, showing the crush’s sister that it was a big deal. We can’t turn back time but hey, we all make mistakes. Seeing as you’re regretting your actions, you are certainly learning from them(:

Before school starts, why not try and hang out with your friend. Treat her to an ice cream cone or something and explain to her the situation. Try to tell her that you blurted it out accidentally because you were so used to all of you guys joking around. Really apologize to her and say that you had no intentions of saying such a thing. Once she tells you that she forgives you, drop the subject after that and change topics. I say this because if she says she forgives you, then she really does forgive you. If you continue to bring up the matter it’ll only make her remember the memory and to be quite honest, it’ll get annoying. Just try to have some closure and move on, put the past behind you and continue to laugh like the two of you did before(:

If you’re worried about the first day becoming a big deal for your friend, then make sure you stand by her side. If people are going to come at her at left and right to about her crush, stand by her side and assure her that you got her back. After all, that’s what friends are for right?(:

If you’re really worried whether the crush’s sister told him or not then you can always ask her. Don’t make a big fuss about it and first, see how the first day of school will be. If her crush says something then obviously he found out one way or another, but if everything’s normal then chances are she’s put the thing behind her or forgot the thing even happened. You should do the same then(:

Don’t beat yourself up too much Guilty, friends are meant to forgive and forget. After all, wouldn’t you do the same?(:

~(Chingu) 친구