Anonymous: According to my parents, my little sister is the definition of perfect. She is better than me in everything from school to sports to socialize. She is prettier, smarter and get encouraged to do what she wish. I just feel depressed every time i think about it. She is my little sister and having the job as a big sister i try to do everything that is right. But, it seems that everything i try to do like starting a new challenge fail miserable. She sometimes mock me for doing something wrong and my parents also start to mock me because of that. After a while, i feel depressed. What should i do?  

Friend: Dear Anonymous,

No one on this planet, heck probably no one in this universe, can be the definition of sheer perfection. Is your sister incapable of making error? Is she so perfect she can never improve in anything? Of course not, nobody is. Making mistakes is part of life, it’s what makes us human and last time I checked: we’re all human(:

Please don’t feel bad or depressed just because some people might think your sister is prettier than you. I’m sure that there are people out there who think you’re just as if not more pretty than her(: What is beauty? Is it having the clearest skin? Is it having the bluest eyes? Who knows? Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and it’s all based entirely on their own opinion. Someone might think someone is just average looking and someone else might be thinking the person is gorgeous. We can never all be biased on the same person. Just because a sibling is better than you at something, let’s say academics for instance, doesn’t mean they are the best at everything ;) You just need to find that thing you’re amazing at all on your own(:

If you set yourself up for failure, chances are you’ll be met with just that. Don’t ever automatically go into something and assume you’ll fail. If you keep up a positive attitude, the rest should soon follow(: Try your best in everything that you do because when you really set your mind on something, there’s no way you can finish with regret. If you know you gave it your best, then you should be proud because of that(:

No parents should ever compare any of their children to one another. Each and every child was brought up for a reason, none of them ever being exactly the same no matter what their DNA holds. Just because your sister might be better at you in something, doesn’t mean she’ll be better than you in everything. Try and explain to your parents how their constant mocking is leading you to feeling bad about yourself.

If you’re really depressed about the way your family has been treating you, then you should really speak up about it. We were born with a voice for a reason, and heck one of those reasons is to use it! Depression is a pretty serious thing that can lead to all sorts of things. Letting your parents know that their actions were the cause of it could be a huge wake up call. No parents want to really hurt their child, let alone put them in such a state. Trying to sit down and explain to them your situation can really open new doors and shed some light.

Hope everything goes well Anonymous(:

~(Chingu) 친구