Crushed Girl : I am very confused right now. I am 11 years old. I have a crush on my classmate.. And we sit together for the past few terms. Gossips have been spreading around and I had been informed that he likes me too, but we don't have the courage to talk to each other. He keeps looking at me and Me too. What should I do? My friend helped me asked him if he likes me or not, and he actually said no, although I know he likes me in the deep of his heart. What should I do?

Friend: Dear Crushed Girl,

I know you must be tired of hearing this and believe me when I say this, I have no intentions of belittling you what-so-ever, but you’re so still so young! 11 years old? That’s not even middle school! What’ll happen if the two of you confess that you may like the other? Why rush into a relationship? Enjoy your youth because believe me; once it’s gone, you’re going to wish for it to come back.

Gossip is simply that – gossip. It can be true but half of the times it’s the farthest thing from it. Don’t let that kind of rumor shake you up, who’s to say that the guy really does like you? What if there’s a rumor going around to him saying that you are the one who likes him? Then you have yourself in a vicious and never ending cycle of who-likes-who. If that’s the case, then there’s your reason as to why the two of you continue to look at one another. You look at him, waiting for him to make a move and he’s doing the same, wondering what’s going on between you two.

Guys are usually self-reserved when it comes to the topic of girls. If your friend was the one who asked him about his feelings, of course he’ll probably say no. After all, it’s not like your friend is the one that he could possibly like, so he has no reason to tell her whether it’s true of not. Another option is that he truly meant it when he said no. After all, you only heard that he might like you through gossip which, like I’ve said before, could or could not be true.

How do you know that he likes you back? Has he ever said it himself? Or are you just inferring this from other people? Crushed Girl, I really advise all my friends to never jump to conclusions because if they were put into his position, that’s the last thing they would want people to do. If the rumor is really bothering you, then try and clear it up by asking him yourself. Don’t confront him in front of the entire class, just try and get a second alone with him to figure things out. Calmly tell him that you just want to know if the rumor is true or not. If he says no then you should start to clear up the rumor. Next time someone mentions it, just casually brush it off and tell them it isn’t true. If he says yes, then it’s all up to you on how to take it. I personally don’t see why or how you two would start a relationship, seeing if your parents approve, but who’s to say you two can’t get closer and become great friends?(:

Hope everything works out in the end Crushed Girl(:

~(Chingu) 친구