Question 391
Suju Advice ColumnEvelyn029
Say, you have a lover; have been together for a very long time that you've grown attached to each other. He/she used to make you promise to be together forever. You've grown to trust her/him a lot that you gave him/her your everything and start making future plans.
You're aware that the relationship was constantly shaken; friends and peers who constantly mock your relationship, family members who are visibly uncomfortable, and those recurring acrimonious argument. Despite all of that, the both of you still need each other. A LOT. You started to believe that one day the both of you will make it through it all. Because right now the both of you are still youngsters with not much privilege. The thing is, the both of you are really, really afraid of losing each other.
But one day, due to an accident that would affect his/her and your family's image in the future, he/she, who have always been overprotective all this while, decided that the both of you separate. Although you convince him/her that it's painful to let him/her go, he/she insisted that it is something that you need to do, albeit recommending that you find someone new. Not wanting to hold him/her back, you forced yourself to let go.
Now that he/she is not by your side anymore, you feel empty. You know that feeling when you pull out your canine tooth by force? It feels like that, empty and painful. Nobody, nothing else can fill that space no matter how. You try to forget everything about him/her or at least, get rid of that pain but somehow you still find yourself having the urge to get his/her attention whenever you meet and cannot help feeling depressed whenever you accidentally reminisce the memories. Sure, you are happy to see him/her doing well right now and you never stop praying all the best for him/her, but a part of you is still crying.
Oppa, if you're in this situation, what would you do to get over it? Of course we shouldn't be trying to win him/her back.
p/s. eunhae or kyumin spam please?
Leeteuk: Since you are asking for Eunhae or Kyumin spam, I'll let the four of them give you advice.
Eunhyuk: Well this sounds really sad.
Donghae: I'm so sorry you have to go through with this dear ELF.
Sungmin: In these type of situations, you can't really do anything to get over it. You have to just let time heal your wound.
Kyuhyun: Think of the time before this person, you were on your own doing things, being happy. You can be like that again, but it will take lots of time.
Donghae: You have to focus on yourself. Focus on your studies, your hobbies, your friends and family.
Sungmin: You got to be depressed and cry. Let it all out. Put on those sad songs and let yourself remember all the moments. Get it all out of your system and then pick yourself up and live again.
Eunhyuk: Sungmin is right you need to continue living, you are not half a person you are a whole person with or without him/her. It may feel like you needed each other but in reality you chose to be together and he/she chose to end it, so now you must chose to be without them.
Donghae: Good luck to you! We hope when you're ready to love again someone who truly wants to be with you, accidents or not, stays at your side.
Eunhae & Kyumin: We love you!
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