Question 323
Suju Advice ColumnQueenofMatoki
I have this piano class I'm taking and I absolutely loathe it. It's very very hard and it has NOTHING to do with what I want to be when I grow up. I at music anyways, and I always tell my parents I want to quit but they will not allow it. They are too controlling of my life and don't understand that I can't make their standards. My brother was super good at everything, but I am not, so I absolutely loathe that I am constantly looked down on. I can finish this year's course but I absolutely cannot take another year of that hell. My parents always say that they pay sooo much for me, when they never buy me what I want and instead force me to take things I do not want. I am fine with not having a fancy smartphone and nice things, but I do not want to take classes that have NOTHING to do with me becoming a writer in the future. My entire family is great at math and science so when I'm good at Language Arts and Social Studies, they will not allow me to do what I want and instead force me to take that horrid piano class. It's very very hard and I just despise it so much, the stress and hatred of me KNOWING that I have to go just hurts me in class. Every Sunday, the first thing I think of is that horrid piano class. It stresses me out so much! My parents will not listen to reason. If I say it's too hard, they say I am not trying. If I say I don't like it, they don't even care. How do I convince them to not make me take another year of that horrid class? And accept that I don't want to be a doctor or a scientist, and NO I won't make a ton of money, but I'll make enough to survive. They tell me that if I make more money doing a good job, I can retire faster. But if I have a job I enjoy, why would I want to quit? And I could be happy my entire life, I don't understand why they can't understand. Don't get me wrong, I love them to bits but this just frustrates me as they never listen to what I have to say. I have a friend who had their parents force her to do a lot. ...Sorry it got too long...
Anyways, my friend had over controlling parents and he's pretty messed up now. He constantly does bad things and was on the brink of dropping out of school. (Luckily he is recovering now, though it's not thanks to his parents...) He used to be a straight A student and basically a role model. I definitely do not want to end up that way. Studies have shown that a lot of stress can mess children up, and I'm very scared of what may happen. I think that stupid piano class is the main source of this problem...
I really appreciate the help. Honestly, I would have a very hard time if I were you, you are an amazing person. I must give you a huge thanks! ^^ (Sorry if I have bad English, English is not my mother tongue.)
Oh my gosh I feel so bad, but if you could, please spam Kibum and SiBum
(Kibum, you're making my feels worseee ;-;)
Siwon: Hello! Maybe me and my sweet Kibum can help?
Kibum: Yes.
Siwon: Continue and try and reason with your parents, try and list all the good things of being a writer and how much you love doing it. They will have to understand. Tell them they had dreams once too!
Kibum: If they don't listen to you try and consulting another adult who can support you and try and reason with your parents.
Siwon: Don't stop trying!
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