Question 351
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Halloooo~
This is my frist time ever asking for personal advice! My sister tends to get annoyed since I bottle everything up :3
So, on the subject of friends. I have this one friend I met recently-online (around 3-4 months ago?) She lives far away (2 hour bus journey from my house) and when ever I visit her, I have to make my own journey there. She's 18 in 2 months while I'm 17 in one month. She says she's bad at directions so I have to take her every. I'm fine with that so I take her around central and every to places which I've never been before, even though I'm horrible at directions myself. (Been branded as the female Zoro from one piece when it comes to directions.)
It's not that's she's bad but rather, she just doesn't want to do any work. She follows me around as then wen I get it wrong, she slaps me on the arm and shouts at me.
She tends to go out wit me but only if I pick her up and I end up wasting over £10 every time we go out just on travel.
Then, as a dongsaeng (she's also a kpop fan), she forces me to buy her food and kpop posters which are expensive here in London since there's like 3 stores that sell kpop related items.
I end up waking up at 7am to get ready, make my way to the bus stop for 8am and sit for until 10am. Then we go to central which is a 30 minute train ride and stay until 4pm. We get to her house around 4:30pm and she forces me to stay until 7pm. Then of course it back to the 2 hour kind bus ride back home and I get home at around 9pm. Once time I got home at 10pm and my father got really angry and shouted at me for ages!
I really don't want to make that 2 hour long bus drive whenever I want to meet her so how do I get her to make her own way to places where I can also get to easily?
She can be quite rude sometimes. She'll swear at me, call me names like ugly and fat. One time, she showed a picture of me to her crush without telling me as he called me cute. She got really jealous and shouted at me, posted a status about me.
Heechul:
Henry: Hyung? Are you okay?
Heechul: I'm sorry I'm just a little outraged...
Henry: Why?
Heechul: WHY? WHY??!!
Donghae: Henry what did you do! He's about to blown.
Henry: I-I-
Heechul: WHAT KIND OF FRIEND IS THAT! I DON'T CARE IF SHE'S OLDER!
Hangeng: Hee...
Heechul: I'm fine...I'm fine!
Kangin: What's with the loud keyboard smashing! I'm trying to nap!
Leeteuk: Kangin come back to bed--Oh...
Heechul: First of all...EW! Second of all, yes it's fun to play the dongsaeng-hyung thing when you're not in Korea but you guys live in another country where it doesn't really apply. She has no right to be making you pay for everything, making you go all the way to her place, make you do all the work. That's not how relationships or friendships work.
Kangin: Even though I can be bad at spending money on my dongsaengs I still manage to pick up the tab once in a while and make sure they get fed.
Ryeowook: And he watches K-dramas with me every Tuesday! :D
Heechul: Older or not, you deserve respect. Friends have to care and share and all that good stuff.
Henry: You are going to have to talk to your friend honestly. Let her know this isn't how friends should be. And if she doesn't listen I would reconsider calling her a friend.
Heechul: And whether she's actually worth that 2 hour drive.
Sungmin: Also don't let her call you ugly or fat. You are beautiful. And cute. Your crush seemed to think so too, right? ;)
Heechul: Stay beautful! Hope I helped.
Henry: Hey I helped too!
Sungmin: And me!
Kangin: And me!
Heechul: -_- yeah yeah...
Everyone: Good luck!
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