kimjaeren

Hi again!! So, i'm back and this time i am askng for advice... i have this eX-friend (i consider her ex) and she let me down the time that 8 need her the most. When she got pregnant and the father of her baby did not marry her because he has a gf and he just stayed with her for the sake of the baby, i was the one who helped her with everything. Financially, emotionally and phyiscally i supported her and even invited her to stay at my apartment that i shared with another friend when the baby daddy left her until she gave birth. I was her baby's godmother and i was the one who bought the baby's diaper and formula and even her groceries until she can go back to work and find her own place. Everything went well until i was out of work due to my contract ended and had to stay at a foreign place without a job while waiting for my flight back home. When i was out of work, my other friend who i shared the apartment with told me that she was spreading gossip about me and that the reason why i lost my job is because i stole (which is nowhere near the truth). I confronted her and she just smirked at me and laughed at my face. I broke my friendship with her right away and went home. Now, after 8 months without contact, she suddenly sent a message telling me that she wants to be friends again and she is sorry and that i should just forget what happened for the sake of my 3-year old goddaughter. I had doubts to forgive her because i know how ungrateful she is and i learned that she contacted me again because she is pregnant again and just like the first on3, the guy left her again. What should i do, Leeteuk and Heechul oppa (since you are the eldest and all)... thank you and sorry for such a long concern

Heechul: Let her struggle alone.

Leeteuk: Hee! 

Heechul: She needs to learn that you aren't going to always be there for her and she will have to work for herself. 

Leeteuk: But, she's pregnant. 

Heechul: That's more enough reason for her to start being responsible. When people have children, no matter the age, they have a responsibilty. They have to be adults and find a way to survive and support their children. 

Leeteuk: Still...

Heechul: In the end the decision is your kimjaeren, but if you do decide to help her, don't do things for her let her figure it out. Also don't let her live with you or give her money. If she needs food, give her food not money, if she needs clothes, give her clothes. Also help her find a place to live whether it's her parent's house or a relative or another friend. 

Leeteuk: I agree with Heechul, help her find help instead of helping her directly. 

Heechul: And since she talks about you, don't tell her everything about your life, just in case. 

Leeteuk: That too.

Heechul: Wish you the best of luck and may your friend change and become a better friend and a better person in general for the sake of you, her daughter, and the baby on the way.