Question 373
Suju Advice ColumnKimSunRi
hiii! I just found this n think its brilliant! You're really a wonderful person author-nim! <3
Also decided to try this out :3
Why thanks so much!
Sorry it took me so long to reply ^^;;
~Lizard
My bias is Hyukjae, and i loveeeeeeeeeeeeeeee EunHae to death(its not even funny)! So maybe i can ask this to them? (other members r welcomed to help too heheh)
How do you know when you're in love?
The thing is, yes i got past lovers. But now I'm not really sure if i even love them back then.
People said that you will chose your lover above your friends in terms of feelings. But then again, i got a group of friends since high school that i love really dearly, like a family. Just like you guys SJ members probably! ^^
And when i thought of it, if i were asked between my ex or them, i'll chose them without any hesitation. If i were to leave one, i'll leave the guy i was dating. Sure i was happy with my ex, but my friends still won in my heart.
This never was a problem because i'm not a romantic person that constantly searches for romance.
At least until recently.
A few weeks back when my older sister tells me about her years long boyfriend, she said something that intrigues me. She said that she loves her boyfriend, who completely understands her, completes her, and are always be there for her.
There's this guy between my group of friends, which i was really close to. he knows just by one glance if something's wrong with me, vice versa. He's the first one i come to whenever i got something to say, wether good or bad news, and vice versa. And we practically know everything bout each other. (he even knows of my obsession to EunHae and was sometimes at the receiving end of my spazzing. ha). But we're totally chill with that so far. No weird or awkward romantic feelings. But after my sister thing, i started to have... like 'what if's question. I mean what if we were together? and stuffs.
Its usually easy for me to measure 'love', because i just compare them to my friends. but he IS my friend. So i really am confused.
Sorry for the long rant ><
Eunhyuk: Thank you Eunhae supporter!
Donghae: Thank you for your love!!
Eunhyuk: Hmm what do you think, Hae?
Donghae: I think you do love your friend!
Eunhyuk: Whoa really?!
Donghae: Yeah, but maybe only as a friend.
Eunhyuk: Oh...
Donghae: Love is pretty confusing but there's signs like getting flustered or feeling attracted to him.
Eunhyuk: Yeah, you may just be comparing this friend to your sister's boyfriend and if you do not have feelings for him like that then you shouldn't do anything but keep the relationship you have.
Donghae: It's okay to think "what if we were together", but if you don't like the person and don't want to hold hands, kiss, touch, and do other things with the person than it is not worth going for.
Eunhyuk: A person usually knows slightly when they like someone in that way. The feeling just comes to you. Don't try and force it with your friend.
Eunhae: Good luck! We love you!
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