Question 373

Suju Advice Column

KimSunRi

hiii! I just found this n think its brilliant! You're really a wonderful person author-nim! <3
Also decided to try this out :3


Why thanks so much!

Sorry it took me so long to reply ^^;;

~Lizard


My bias is Hyukjae, and i loveeeeeeeeeeeeeeee EunHae to death(its not even funny)! So maybe i can ask this to them? (other members r welcomed to help too heheh)
How do you know when you're in love?
The thing is, yes i got past lovers. But now I'm not really sure if i even love them back then.
People said that you will chose your lover above your friends in terms of feelings. But then again, i got a group of friends since high school that i love really dearly, like a family. Just like you guys SJ members probably! ^^
And when i thought of it, if i were asked between my ex or them, i'll chose them without any hesitation. If i were to leave one, i'll leave the guy i was dating. Sure i was happy with my ex, but my friends still won in my heart.
This never was a problem because i'm not a romantic person that constantly searches for romance.
At least until recently.

A few weeks back when my older sister tells me about her years long boyfriend, she said something that intrigues me. She said that she loves her boyfriend, who completely understands her, completes her, and are always be there for her.
There's this guy between my group of friends, which i was really close to. he knows just by one glance if something's wrong with me, vice versa. He's the first one i come to whenever i got something to say, wether good or bad news, and vice versa. And we practically know everything bout each other. (he even knows of my obsession to EunHae and was sometimes at the receiving end of my spazzing. ha). But we're totally chill with that so far. No weird or awkward romantic feelings. But after my sister thing, i started to have... like 'what if's question. I mean what if we were together? and stuffs.
Its usually easy for me to measure 'love', because i just compare them to my friends. but he IS my friend. So i really am confused.

Sorry for the long rant ><


Eunhyuk: Thank you Eunhae supporter!

Donghae: Thank you for your love!!

Eunhyuk: Hmm what do you think, Hae?

Donghae: I think you do love your friend!

Eunhyuk: Whoa really?!

Donghae: Yeah, but maybe only as a friend.

Eunhyuk: Oh...

Donghae: Love is pretty confusing but there's signs like getting flustered or feeling attracted to him.

Eunhyuk: Yeah, you may just be comparing this friend to your sister's boyfriend and if you do not have feelings for him like that then you shouldn't do anything but keep the relationship you have.

Donghae: It's okay to think "what if we were together", but if you don't like the person and don't want to hold hands, kiss, touch, and do other things with the person than it is not worth going for.

Eunhyuk: A person usually knows slightly when they like someone in that way. The feeling just comes to you. Don't try and force it with your friend.

Eunhae: Good luck! We love you!

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Anime_Otome
#1
Chapter 402: Hi I'm in 8th grade and I need advice
I'm pretty much socially awkward except with people I know and an comfy with like my cousins. In school I'll be like that one loner in the corner My classmates don't like me even though I never did anything to them and it's pretty saddening next year I'm going to high school and I feel very depressed will I spend my whole high school year like this? Haha sorry SuJu that got depression fast XD anyways thanks and my Ultimate Biases are Yesung Ryeowook and Zhoumi I can't choose one >.< and my favorite OTP Yewook of course ;) PPLEASE LORD SHISUS BRING IN THE SPAM ^_^
RJ_kpop
#2
Chapter 99: First of all...I am not mental for writing this and second I really love this fic. so this is kinds long so sorry...

I really love you Cho Kyuhyun! you need to remember that many people in this world loves you because you're such a lovable human being and no one in this world will ever hate you! you deserve to be spoiled and loved! you will forever be a kid in my eyes! XD continue being evil and if you will ever think of plotting world domination I will totally support you and help you recruit members for your army!!! CHOKYU JJANG!
and KRY you are the best vocalists ever! thanKYU very much for existing in this world!!! luv u and all Suju members! (but I love Kyuhyun more) XD
and please Kyuhyun and KRY spam please!!!
p/s: luv u authornim for making this fic *I'm still not halfway through though* XD
FOREVER KYUHYUN BIASED! LOVE U CHOKYU!!!
seobiefairy
#3
Chapter 145: What if I got friends that is actually erm how do i say this? Hypocrite? Lets put numbers for this. At first, when 1 entred degree, she kinda get new friends and apart from us, the foundation friend. But the other in my group (2,3,4,5) is talking like how she is abandoning us and confront her saying that she changed hearts and dont want to befriend with us anymore. But now, 2 is just the same. She found other friends to share stories with and asks opinions rather than telling it to me too. Hm i feel sad.

Ps: Lee Donghae-ssi; my first ever bias, and still is my bias, please be healthy and happy okay? Stay handsome, love♡ and Super Junior, fighting!
Laurensmiles #4
Chapter 402: Happy 400 author-nim!!!

I have a bigger question than the one I had before.

What does it mean when a boy says, "You know, is it weird to say that I think I could see us dating?"

I'm really confused and I don't know what that means but j want to still be friends with this person. And I literally only met this person a few days ago so it's really awkward...

HanHae Spam and OTP YeWook and ZhouRy!!!!
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TaiShanNiangNiang #5
Chapter 402: Whoa, Happy 400!!! :)
mybabyhaehae #6
Chapter 402: Hello oppas =)
I love tou all so much hehe :-D
Mmm i has a studying problem
Im in my senior year and after two munths my final exams will get start , my problem is i cant study proberly "hard" like {i just oppen the book read some of it and then close it } and somtimes i lost foucus in class's idw why.
So i really nees soeme good advice oppas to help me return on stuyding :-)
Ps: i want leeteuk , Eunhae spam please
Thanx ♡
Laurensmiles #7
Chapter 401: Hi, I'm back and I took your advice. I broke up with and said that I would need some time to think, but now he won't leave me alone. He emails me, he skypes me and keeps trying to confront me and all about stuff. But right now I just want some alone time. Also the person I like everyone sees us as a couple. But he kinda sees me as his younger sister. What do I do? Also, thanks Heechul, I know I'm special now. I love writing and I hope to be a famous writer and singer.
Zhoury/HenMi Spam please!! And Henry spam!!!!
LoveSHINeeSuJu
#8
Chapter 401: hello oppas it's me again, thank you eunhae for the advice the previous time. remember that time where I told you about the boy that I really like but he's giving me mixed signals? so, I didn't manage to muster the courage to confess to him, but here's the thing. I have this really close friend of mine, let's name her Z. Z used to like guy A (the guy that I like) for a period of time, but she told me she moved on to guy B. Recently, Z told me that she doesn't like B anymore and that she has been boasting to me about her conversations with A even tho she knows that I like guy A. Z is really pretty and a much much better person than me, so I guess the probability of A liking Z would be higher. She has no wrong for talking to him at all, but I don't know why she always tell me how close A and her are. I don't want to break this friendship by confronting her, and am at a loss of what to do since I'm getting so affected by it. eunhae & kyu, can you give me advice on how not to be affected by it? :(
Sujufan123
#9
Chapter 401: *first I'm really sorry for my Eng i hope it isn't that bad*
Annyeonghaseyo!~
I have a problem, *that's why i'm here lol*
I have my friend, i know her for 8 years and i really like her. Now we are in new school, new class and we've got in it some y girls. They think they are the best just because they're trying to show everywhere their s. In fact, they are stupid *really, just watch them during lessons* They also drink alcohol *they are 13-14*. And they became friends with my friend. They were drinking together and as a friend I'm worried. We were also arguing a lot, because of them. Now i feel that we aren't friends anymore. My friend calls me only when she has a problem in homework, we don't see each other, she just doesn't treat me like a friend. When I tried to talk about it she sayed that it's normal and she just want to spend time with someone else. I feel really hurt I don't want her to be friends with those girls. What should I do? Leave her alone? Oppas help! :<
PS. WOOKIE OPPA SARANGHAE ♥ Sorry YeYe but recently I've been shipping KyuWook ♥ So can I have Ryeowook and Kyuwook spam? ^^
Laurensmiles #10
Chapter 399: 안녕 선배!!!

Guys I have a problem, so, my boyfriend and I got together rather spontaneously and i think he's developed, kind of, "SoulMate" feelings for me. I don't really know how cause I'm not really anything special. But I'm confused cause I think I like this other boy, Boy A. But I think that if I tell him that not only will I probably never be able to talk to him again if he rejects me but I'll lose a really really good friend. And I don't want to do that.

So I guess what I'm saying is, how do I figure out if I really love someone?
And how do I tell someone I have a crush on them. I was thinking love letter but that's really cliché so... Please help me!!!

I would appreciate Yesung and Hangeng spam. For the OTP, EunHae and Sibum please!!