Question 385
Suju Advice Columnkelly2010
So you know that girl I mentioned a long time ago? Um yeah...there's a lot going on with her and I don't know what to do about it anymore. I caught her talking about me behind my back, saying that I'm not aual (I came out in June and she apparently can't handle it), she said I'm lazy (which is crap because I work in a bakery with lots of physical labor and I hep out with housework on top of it all), she said I'm disrespectful (also crap), and that I should leave anime and K-Pop and focus more on God (Yeah, not gonna happen ). I confronted her and she ing lied about it to MY FACE! We also caught her back talking about two of my friends and my brother. She is constantly putting me down and criticizing me and its causing my anxiety to spike. Bad. I did something...I'm not proud of because of her. I want her gone and my mom is only taking passive action (she's been dropping hints that she wants her out instead of being blunt about it). Tips on how to deal until she leaves my life...for good?
Sungmin: She sounds like an awful person!
Ryeowook: I would confide in your mother what she has done if you haven't already told her. I would also tell your brother and get his help in telling your mother about her. The more people on your side maybe the more she will listen.
Kibum: What you can do is ignore her for now. If you give her attention she will just use it to her advantage.
Leeteuk: There's not much we can say. This person seems to be a full part of your life and we could only suggest trying to distance away from her as much as you can until she finally leaves.
Eunhyuk: To manage anxiety you can do activities that are soothing like listening to music, writing, drawing, even coloring.
Donghae: Also take deep breaths and try and keep a positive outlook.
Kibum: Talking to someone also helps, try and find someone you trust and talk it out or write it out in a journal or diary.
Siwon: Limiting alcohol and caffeine also helps not aggravate your stress as much.
Sungmin: We wish you the best! Hang in there!
Everyone: We love you!
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