hi it's been forever since i blogged but 

something just isn't sitting right w me and i need opinions 

so basically i have a friend who has a 3 yr gf. we were (i say were bc idk the state of our relationship now) on good terms, like she's about half a year younger than me but my friend has been my friend since our sophomore year of hs (currently sophomore in college so 4 years of friendship)

i kinda helped him get with his current gf through prom and after graduating that was the end of that. I've stayed friends with my friend (let's call him B) but we dont see each other and our only means of communication is snapchat but both of us just snap once a day and that's that. VERY rarely I'll talk with him through chat just about whatever, cuz we're friends that just have a low maintenance relationship...

until yesterday when he suddenly added me on snap. i was like?? so i (jokingly) said why'd u unadd me ):< when i added him back. then he gave me backstory that his gf was jealous and blocked me and asked me to help clarify our relationship to his gf...

so i said i am happy with my own relationship and would never get with B like that bc he is someone i enjoy as a friend platonically. no reason for me to esp when i have my own boyfriend. and added (with a disclaimer that literally said u can take full offence to this unsolicited advice) saying it was wrong and unfair of her to do so and isn't okay if she can't trust him in this way. sooo she clapped back basically saying mind ur business and that "there was evidence that ((keyword)) CAN (but literally... does not) point to this sort of relationship happening btwn you two" and "you don't know how he acts w her friends" and that my relationship means nothing when it comes to this (wow gee not like she follows my finsta which... is FLOODED btw of my bf and I)  (like talking about our OWN SEPARATE weddings? and nails? and school?) 

but kind of... isn't it IS my business when this happened? it is my business the moment i got blocked and let into this problem? and bc he is my friend? shouldn't i have a right to speak up when something doesn't seem right? it's not like that right is suddenly taken away bc I am a girl and that i don't know how exactly their relationship works right...

like bc... if that's her reasoning (my relationship meaning nothing when it comes to this, which can be true but... really? THAT'S how bad i am to you? and that idk how he acts with her friendds, which also true but... seriously?) then that kind of tells me she's insecure and just has trust issues to begin with and it's not fair for B that he constantly has to reassure her. like her reasons sounds like excuses for me to out and shut up and also to help her validate how she feels... which to me. sounds toxic :-//

i also remember B telling me "happy wife happy life" which also sounds like he just pushes his feelings under the rug to avoid conflict perhaps because she is his first gf and is afraid to do anything to displease her? which is also toxic

am i just being a nosey friend  that's reading too into it :-/