Can you help me?
Well, Hello
FIRST: This is a very serious problem for me (,my school grades and social communication) so please don't laugh or mock me.
Okay, this is actually not so easy to write down because I only recently realized that this can be a serious (at least for me) problem but still.
I am REALLY shy, to the extent that you could say I'm not shy but afraid of people or sth like that.
AND I have little to zero self confidence.
I have almost no social skills if you can say it like that. I barely talk to people I don't know and I'm almost afraid to even raise my hand in class because I'm AFRAID that I will be laughed at. Somewhere in my mind I know that that isn't true, that others alsosay something false and not get laughed but still I'm afraid. That's why I'm only raising when I really know the answer, which is sadly not so often. (The German people here will know how important the oral grade for the end grade is).
THe worst thing is that I can't take responsibility for the smallest things because I'm really afraid of rejection. One of the worst examples happened only today...
Me an my friends are helping some little children to learn swimming/getting them used to be in water and splashing around and such stuff. My friend asked me to take the kids to the shower nearby to get them wet(swimming rules and all, if you don't know it look it up) but I was simply afraid to do so... I'm not afraid of the children but just I have like no "presence" at all, I don't really know how to be so people would listen to me... So I said no and she was pissed.. and I couldn't really explain it to her so yep...
Can anyone give me some advice on how I can boost my self-confidence a bit? Or at least give me some advice on how to handle such situations?
(I don't need an adive like "Go to a psychiatrist" or sth like that because I'm planning to do so anyways.. not only because of this)
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