I don't know what to do

Okay, so it is confirmed that I like him. But about a week ago, he started ignoring and advoiding me. I was confused as to why it happened. No one explained it to me and he does not want to tell me anything. Whenever I ask him he will lie to me. I know he is lying. I know him so well that it hurts when he lies to me. That is when I found out his reason for lying to me.

Apparently, he knows that I like him. He is very shocked about this matter as he only treated me as his sister. He was shocked to find out that one of his close friend would actually fall for him. He does not want other to know and he does not want to lead me on. But seriously, that is not an excuse to avoid someone. 

We talked everyday and everyone could tell that we are close. We don't have to talk to understand each other. But now, he won't even go near me. Am I that revolting? Am I that disgraceful? He told one of my friend that it was fault that this happened. But what wrong did I do? Is it that wrong to like someone? If it is then I admit it is my fault. It is my fault that this whole freaking thing happened.

Now I feel like everything that happened is my fault. It is my fault that I like him and it is my fault that he is treating me like this now. I really do want to slap him and ask him to stop avoiding me but I can't. He is one of those that truly understand me. He knows how I am without me telling him. He knows when I am angry, sad or even tired and I don't show these emotions to others. I always put on a strong front but he knows that inside, I am actually a soft-hearted person.

But now, it is my fault that I lost a best friend like him. I didn't expect him to be like this. He made me cry more than everyone else already but he does not seem to know that. And yes, he likes another girl. He tells me everything and trust me a lot but he can't accept the fact of me liking him? And I did not even tell him anything. Is this what other people say about you cannot love your best friend?

I am really stressed about this matter and I really do not know what to do. Everytime he avoids me, my heart hurts. Today, we were standing quite apart but I could still feel the awkwardness in the air. I could not look at him and he does not even want to look at me. 

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PrincessHades #1
Hmm.. You're right. Maybe I should do as you say but I do have to courage to do so. I'm afraid I might cry or even hit him with anger if he does not give me the answer I want to hear. Anyway thanks for your advice :)
SoMinty #2
You're welcome. :)
He didn't reply? That just says it all. If you feel that you should give him one more chance, ask him in person. This way he can't avoid you and he has to give you a straight up answer. If he failed to redeem himself or he shows no effort in making the friendship work. Then let it be. Just walk away knowing that you gained some experience and you know that guys like that are a waste of time. And you'll learn to not like guys that are not worth your time, patience and effort. :)
PrincessHades #3
@Kiwi923: I did but he does not want to talk to me. Technically, he does not even want to look at me in the eye.

@SoMinty:
Thanks for the advice. I did ask him whether he still wants to be friends with me but he did not reply me at all. I feel like I should just give this whole friendship up if he does not even appreciate this friendship. Am I doing the right thing?
SoMinty #4
Okay, I have to say that I didn't go through this experience but my two close friends did in college. So I know how you feel especially since it happened recently. It is not your fault that you like him. And I'm not saying this to be nice. If he understood you well enough, he should know that avoiding is the worst possible thing to do to anyone that likes him and it's even worst because you're his friend. My advice is to be straight forward with him. Tell him to cut the . You have to be stern and serious since you've obviously tried to talk to him. Tell him to cut the and that if he really was your friend he wouldn't be this about the situation. He should accept the fact that you like him and if he doesn't have any of those type of feelings for you, the least he could do is continue the strong and close friendship you have with him. All that avoiding is immature and unnecessary. And tell him if he really thought of you as a sister, as a close friend, he would get his together, since your shouldn't effect him. You guys should just move on and continue your friendship, sooner or later, your feelings would fade. Sorry for being so blunt but that's how it should go. My friend, he made the mistake of not doing that and it got him deeper and she avoided him even more, there was just so much drama and tension. So do yourself a favor, if you want to continue the friendship, do as I said above. If not, then realized that you could make better friends. :) Good luck with everything. Time will take it's toll. So don't worry.
Kiwi923 #5
Ah I see ><; Maybe ask him in a way like "Can I please talk to you? Just hear me out" or something like that idk orz
PrincessHades #6
Thanks :) But the problem is that he doesn't even want to talk to me. I feel bad if I force him and I am scared that he might get irritated and be angry at me :(
Kiwi923 #7
Wow...that must be really painful...The only advice I could possibly give is to try and talk to him alone and tell him how you feel. Yes it may be hard to talk to him in general but you must find a way... I don't know you that much or your situation but I kind of know how it is to lose a best friend...Don't let the reasons be unheard or unexplained. I hope thing will get better~
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