I started online dating. This dude got into contact with me, I like his appearance too. We talk. 24 hours later he tells me he wants to meet up. I stall. Uh, it’s weird, feels weird, no thanks. 

Our conversations are meaningless. He wants to meet up constantly, hang out, get to know each other yet the only thing he ever texts me are “what are you doing?”

I’m not a dater usually. I haven’t been on a lot of dates, im bad at it. My guts are saying “eeeeeeeeh” to the whole meeting up when we’ve been talking for less than a week. 

I tell him, “know what, I can’t find myself in this and I feel pressured”. 

He responds, “you act like every guy is a , poor thing. Hiding in your bush afraid of everybody. You’re too immature for me, I need a strong woman”. 

Idk, is that supposed to hurt me? You calling me immature? Oh well. 

Anyway, I realized, I don’t want a boyfriend if I have to force myself to meet up with someone my gut is telling me no about. If we can’t have any meaningful conversation over text, how much in common do we actually have in real life? 

Aaaaand, I realized, that I don’t want “mature guys” who want to meet up less than 48 hours of meeting. It’s just a red flag to me.

(Or guys that smoke weed. It’s a turn off, a complete turn-off, no thank you ever).