how to deal with envy???

So, I guess if I was an embodiment of a sin it would either be sloth or envy but I wish I was sloth b/c envy is so exhausting. Like, I know all these people who are doing amazing thigns and traveling and basically, in comparison to myself and my pretty forgettable ordinary life, I am super envious and it's toxic. I cannot deal with envy well I pull away from people and I'm unsure how to handle it. All I can think about is how much I'd like to be them when I talk to them and it's not good for my mental state or anything really. I know it's bad to compare your life to others, it doesn't get you anwhere, but man why do I attract all these people who do stuff like this! Can't I just meet someone in the same boat as I am? Like wtf universe and life throw me a bone or at least people I can relate too -_- Anyway I'm super bitter rn and I don't know how to handle it. How do you guys handle envy or jealousy? Do you just kinda wait it out or think better thoughts? Please tell me because I will probably try anything at this point.

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topbomlover1 #1 Jul 13, 2016 22:25:53

I get extremely jealous. I don't get long with people well while my friends seem to know everyone at our school. My family struggles with rent and other money issues and we have a tiny house but my friends all seem richer than me and three of my friends have bathrooms double the size of my own room that I sometimes share with my brother. Everyone seems smarter than me and they always have new everything. New phones, new clothes, new shoes etc. while I'm stuck with hand me downs from my older sister :( So yeah, I get extremely jealous but I don't feel as bad as I used to. I just kind of realised most of the things I'm jealous of are things I can't change so I told myself to deal with it. The things I could change, however, I worked hard to change. Like my grades and personality. These tips might not be ood for everyone but they made me happier. I deleted my snapchat, facebook and instagram account because I felt very jealous of the pictures I would see of my friends travelling and just having a great time. I shifted my focus to the good things in my life. For example, I realised most of my friends were either the only child or they had one sibling. I have 2 brothers, a sister and 3 half sisters so I don't usually get lonely. Some of my friends might wish they had a sibling. This reminds me that nobody has it all and even those people who seem to have an amazing life have things they don't have. Finally, celebrate the success of your friends. When good things happen to others, just be happy for them. When you begin to get that jealous feeling, tell yourself that you are happy for them. After awhile, the feeling will subside and you can deal with it better. Sorry for the long reply. It's 4:30am and I am feeling emotional and scholar-y.

sleepingprince #2 Jul 13, 2016 22:25:49

I think instead of being jealous maybe you can turn it into a benchmark for you to work harder to achieve your dreams ? Always guard your heart and mind. I think our heart and intention is important . Its normal that sometimes you wish or hope that you can do certain things that others do.. But never compared yourself .There's always enough sun for everyone to shine. Your time will come. Think positive and believe in yourself. Be happy for others and good will come to you too :) I hope someday you too can achieve what you want ^_^ Fighting