I know it's kinda pointless to post this in a fanfiction-community especially when I'm writing fanfiction myself, but anyway I'm a bit fed-up with hardcore shipping, when it is explicitely describing something as a ual relationship.

Don't get me wrong, I don't care about ual orientation at all. It's rather that I believe it is inappropriate to use real people for your own ual fantasies if these are published in an open community. I'm not trying to tell anyone what to do, it's just something that bothers me even if I can't change it (and probably have no right to anyway).

When I was on Twitter the other day (where I'm following people who post SHINee related news mostly) I received a tweet from several people of a manipulated gif showing Jonghyun's silhouette having fierce ual with Taemin's silhouette. It was actually pretty well done and there could be no doubt about whose silhouttes were manipulated into the picture.

Many people were apparently delighted about it and it was spread within seconds to everybody and their uncle ... and Jonghyun.

Do people really not think at all or in the end not even care? I mean, of course it is known to him and everybody else in SHINee that fans write fanfiction and that it more often than not is about seriously ual content. And yeah, it is unlikely that Jonghyun looks at every tweet he receives. But on the other hand, once a tweet has been sent it spreads like cancer and everyone interested in SHINee knows Jjong's twitter-address. So he might have received it many times, hundreds of times even.

Everybody knows what he's like. He takes things to heart, probably even more with regards to Taemin than to himself. And he is exhausted and not very stable at the moment.

Was this really necessary?

I wrote to some of the people who shared the gif and asked them about this. I asked them if they aren't aware that this might actually hurt the people they pretend to love. But they just told me to "chill". 

And you know, even if this was a real gif (which it obviously isn't), even if they did have in real life, how dare anybody post stuff like this about it? Isn't there a clear line how far you can go in your desire to make your dreams openly visible to everyone without the consent of the people involved?

I'm not shipping anybody but still feel uneasy every once in a while to write fiction about real-life people. I wish I knew if it makes them feel bad in general. I was even a bit worried this year when the fictitious death-date of Kibum arrived that I mentioned in "September" because of fear to have jinxed him. I'm glad he survived. It's probably silly but true.

Maybe it makes a difference that I have seen them a couple of times this year and very close-up. They're real, you know, real people. I'm trying to keep that in mind while writing, and hopefully I don't write anything that they would feel bad about if they ever read it (although that will never happen). 

So basically I would like to ask everybody to keep in mind that they are writing about people who have feelings and pride and dignity. If you want to write ual content please make sure it isn't spread via social media that might eventually reach the celebrities involved. If you love them, protect them too and don't make them feel awkward.