I had a bad experience. (RANT)
So, there's a writer on here who's stories I have absolutely adored. I really like her writing style. When I'm on lunch breaks, I read her stories. I run back to them for quick entertainment while waiting for food to finish up, in the tub, on the toilet, etc. I've read ALL of them, and she has a lot. From oldest to newest, newest to oldest, even in alphabetical order. I vote for her stories, I comment on them, I subscribe to all of them, even the ones that have been completed for a long time. I recommend them to other people . . . I'm a fangirl.
Now, she's not a chatty writer. I know this about her. She never responds to comments, but tells us she reads them all. I've never seen a blog post by her and she discourages people from asking for requests. I can respect that, 'I'm not here to socialize' vibe. But, I took a chance today and sent her a pm. I was once again reading one of her stories, and wanted to ask her about her writing process and where she gets her inspiration from.
Me: Do you mind if I ask you a question?
Her: just because you ask doesn't mean i'll answer
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I can't think of a polite way to take that, or respond. I mean, she's right, but it felt wrong. Does that make sense? The polite thing to do would be hear the question first. Another way to answer could have been, 'You can ask, but I might not answer it.' I could even take that. Context is important here. Knowing that she isn't particularly friendly made me take that comment very personally. And it hurt a bit, because there's no way she didn't recognize my name. Again, I'm a fangirl and I show appreciation to the writers that I like. It's my way of supporting them.
Side note, if you've commented on a story more than once, or sent me a pm, or written on my wall, your name will at least look familiar to me.)
I guess the point of all this is to say, there's a difference between being polite and being friendly—and she wasn't either. At least that's how I read it, and that's going to color everything concerning her now. I like to think that I'm nice to my readers anyway, but I'll probably be even nicer now so that no one feels about me like I feel about her.
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