Sad teenagers with happy faces : Parental Issues (Chapter One)
What society did to us ?
Sad teenagers with happy faces.
The process of thinking about this is complex enough itself. So let's break it down into different parts even though they are inter connected.
First, do they really care ? When anyone asks us, how we've been, and how are we doing, do they really want an answer or are they just fulfilling a formality that's been around for quite a long time. Thing is, you can tell by feeling the desperation in their voice. You can sense it yourself if they really care or not, by simply following your general instincts. Reason why I'm talking about this is actually in the world today, people mostly just fulfill the formality on a daily basis, but they don't really care. If they do, the person would pick up their caring signals, and would actually opt telling them the truth, which would make them happy, but that's not the case in the world today, or any other day. When they spill out how they are really feeling, that is when they feel someone cares, they will feel less lonely and self absorbed.
The point of this ^
They do not care, and then judge us without even having any idea how we actually feel, and call us moody. But why do they say that when they don't even care enough to know what's hidden inside of us ? Why us teenagers feel sad and lonely ?
"Teenagers are the most misunderstood people. We are told to act like kids and are expected to act like adults."
The society I have mentioned here includes everyone, even you. We are a part of society, don't forget that.
I have seen so many people who are mostly depressed due to less affection and attention provided by family, parents first then siblings.
Now do not think that I am in any way stating anything negative about my family, but the truth is bitter, accept it.
Parents are two people who brought you into this world together. They gave you shelter, love, food and whatnot. They taught you how to speak. But as you grow up, you start to feel a certain kind of barrier in between yourself and your parents. Now this doesn't apply for everyone, only for those who can relate obviously. The main thing is, the difference of thoughts. They expect, and you can't return. But still, they keep on expecting greatness from you. They expect you to be their idea of perfection. But this doesn't mean you aren't great, you are full of greatness in your own way. Think of it this way, it's just a metaphoric example, if you tell a fish it can't climb a tree, it will spend all of its life thinking and believing that it's stupid. So don't take whatever your parents say to your heart, they love you, you are their strength. But I know sometimes you feel overwhelmed and even they don't understand. Another thing is privacy, the name speaks for itself. At this age, you need it. But again, you are not mostly provided with it. They compare your grades, so what if you're not meant to an engineer? What if your fate has doctor written in it? It could be the other way around too. And there are days, when you are just sad for other reasons, but they ask you, you tell them, then they judge you for being so dumb for being sad at something like that, they give you examples of poor people and other sad things, but does that ever change how you feel ? No, it does not and it never will. Cause you have your battle to fight, and everyone else has theirs. And many other things happen and you just feel like they don't understand you, so you either start to hate them or yourself, and that's it.
As for me, my parents think I am someone else, but in reality, I am another person. It doesn't matter to me, I always try my best to avoid, do it and you'll be fine in no time, cause talking about these things with your parents, not a good idea.
But you know what, life doesn't end at this point, you can't grieve up in front of the people who bring you down. They actually bring you down cause you are above them, and you have to stay that way. Be the intelligent person, and move on.
Because someday you will live your dream, and you will think, should I really have done that ?
A question for you...
What's the biggest argument you have had with your parents ?
We can discuss and work it out.
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