Is it okay to be selfish sometimes?

 

I'm really depressed guys.. I've been crying for the past hour in bed when I should be sleeping over something I was talking to my grandma about.. 

Okay, so first off, let me explain something. We used to live down the road from my grandparents but in the last two years, we moved 2 hours north for my parents got new jobs.

Well, my grandparents never come up to visit us and I talked to my grandma and asked her about it. My mom was worried about it because my dad was a little depressed about the few visits and why they never stay for more than a few hours.

I know now...

My grandpa hates animals that shed hair that live in the house. Hates it.

We have a two year old going on three golden retriever. He's my baby. I love him dearly... ( we used to have a collie but he died a little over a year ago. He was my little brother :3 he was 3 years younger than me so he was my go-to dog.)

Kippy (golden retriever) kind of replaced Cody (collie) when he died so I'm really attached to him.

My mom earlier told me she wanted to get rid of Kip so my grandparents would come visit more...

I convinced her not to but now that my grandma told me that Kip is the reason, I can't help but feel completely torn. 

I love my puppy so much and he gets so wag happy when I come home from college... He is one of things I look forward to most when driving those 3 hours home from college. Yet.. I feel selfish for wanting to keep him when my dad is depressed because his parents won't visit because of Kip. 

I have 3 more years of college and I would gladly take Kip into my own home for my dad but I don't know how many years my grandparents have left here.. I think 3 years is too long to wait for him.

This blog may sound completely stupid and immature for an 18 year old to be crying about but this dog means the world to me.. It's stupid but I'm not going to lie.

I don't know what to do. I feel so torn.

Thanks for letting me vent a bit guys.. It's 2am so I'd better sleep now.. Maybe I'll feel better in the morning. Once I get on the computer, I'll post a picture of Kip if you guys want. :P goodnight~

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Thank you all so much for being here for me and sharing your thoughts. I feel so much better having to let it all out and seeing the feedback and thoughts you guys have shared. Hopefully, I can convince my parents to build a cage that Kip can run around in outside when my grandparents visit and my dad will be happier. I am seriously so grateful to have you all here to listen to me. 

Thanks for being here. Thanks for being my AFF family. I was going to vent on FB but I decided against that because I might upset family and friends and start a war so I'm glad I came to you guys. You're always here to listen and be supportive when I can't find it here at home. I love having you guys as friends, even if I don't know a lot of you personally. We share a love of Korean, Japanese, and even Chinese music, animes, people, and shows and that's what brought us all here :) I'll always be here for you guys as you are for me. I want you all to know that. I may be putting this out of proportion but I really want you guys to know that I'm grateful that you care. Really.

Again, thanks for being awesome. You are freaking awesome and that's what I love about you. 

Don't stop being awesome ;) haha!

Anywhoooo here's a picture or two of my baby Kip and hopefully he'll be around for a long time :)

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Me and my baby :) (I'm extremely young here lol I think this was a year or two ago)

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My Kippy-Kip! :D

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When my baby was a baby lol He was so adorable when he was a puppy~ So cute :3 

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This is my collie Cody. As I mentioned before, he was about 3 years younger than me. He died a year or 2 ago at the age of 15ish 16. (I'm almost 19 now.)  I loved him dearly and I was so heartbroken that my parents were quite worried about me but I'm okay now. The reason why I'm okay is Kip. I feel bad that Kip kind of replaced Cody in that way but Cody will always be number 1 in my heart ;) ♥♥

Love you all!! ♥♥♥

 

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KEYshinee-MyLove #1
im feeling really bad right now...you're not being selfish at all. its sad to get rid of a pet you love so much just because he bothers one person in your life. i know you love both your dog and your grandma, so there must be a way to keep you and your grandparents happy.
king-jongin #2
Babe, it's not stupid, I have a cat that means the entire world to me. I've had to get rid of my old dog because my little sister was allergic, I'm definitely praying that you get to keep your friend :)
DanceaLittleMore #3
My poor baby :'( I'm giving you a huge mind hug right now! Is your grandma allergic to dog hair, or just doesn't like it? Because if she just doesn't like it and that's the only reason she won't visit, that's selfish of HER. Every family has the right to keep whatever pets they want, and it's not her house. It's your's. It's not selfish to want to keep Kip. He's your dog! Of course you love him and want him around. Plus, you told me once that he has use, too. He protects you guys when you're outside because living in the country isn't exactly safe (bears, cougars, serial killers...ok maybe not that last one) so something needs to alert you guys to danger. What about your sister? Every kid deserves the right to have a dog. I wish we were older and could get an apartment near college and then we'd take Kip to live with us... I know I didn't give you any advice but maybe I made you feel a teensy little bit better? You're not being selfish, darling. You're justified in your sadness.
Brewis #4
I love dogs, but I don't know what to do in this situation, I'm sorry. I hope you feel better soon!
otpgirl-juliette #5
____ that
he can suffer
no offense
i freaking love animals,
so i'm biased though
baeknips #6
I totally understand. If I was in your situation, the problems would be completely same. Surely there's some reasoning you can come to? Maybe give him to a friend and visit him? Or keep him in your room so the hair doesn't go anywhere? That's why my gran does when we visit because my brother is allergic to animal fur.
sailorpiglet #7
I feel like this might be cruel, but I think you should keep Kip. Like AsianKitten said, you can always clean before they visit and keep him outside. I feel like your grandparents should be understanding of the fact that the dog is a part of your family, or else they must have never had a pet. Not visiting for long due to a pet, aka a member of the family, sounds like a terrible reason to me. But talk this all out. It's up to your family how it's handled, we're merely here to give our thoughts.
AsianKitten #8
It's hard. I'm attached to my dog too so when he left, it was hard. With dog hair, there's always vacuuming and he can be kept outside. I don't know about you, but to get rid of a pet just because it becomes an inconvenience is just cruel. It's cruel to the god and it's the same as abandoning it. You might not share the same idea as me, but you should talk it out and decide what to do. The dog won't fully understand why it's leaving so be sure of your decision before taking action. Remember, a pet is like a young child. All it'll know is that you don't want him anymore.
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