Is She A Good Friend?

I was just wondering...is my 'best friend' really a good friend to me?

 

I've known this girl since middle school right? We talked a lot, went over to each other's houses, hung out at school. At first I thought she was really cool and nice.

But then we got into highschool.

She told me I must be 'stupid' for liking Japanese/Korean music, she bent my finger's backward multiple times, whacked me on the head (my head is REALLY sensitive and it hurts if someone taps it real hard or bangs on it), told me video games were for boys, EXPECTS me to get her something for her birthday or even Christmas...

She asked a lot of people to get her something for her birthday actually, even asked our old bus driver and our old classmates if they would get her something people she never really hangs out with O___O

My nana just told me she's a mean girl and my mom told me 'Oh but she's so sweet and nice, she cried when she told me misses you'.

Bullcrap.

She has other friends she hangs out with more than me; and a guy she really likes but he told me he doesn't really 'like' her that way and she's always posting message's to him on Facebook.

I know this doesn't sound like a huge issue; but it upsets me when she mocks me and asks me 'Were you always fat?' Yes I know I'm chubby, yes I know I need to loose weight and eat less. I'M WORKING ON IT. It's not easy for some people you know to have a nice figure.

And she and my other friend, make fun of a guy in our old highschool when he wasn't around because he was a little chubby.

So is this girl really my 'friend', 'frenemy', 'aquaintence'? What is she?

I haven't talked to her since highschool and she called me a couple times...but that's about it. I ignore her pretty much now. I know I'm kind of in the wrong too for doing that; but still. Would you like a friend like that?

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Minnie_glitzheart #1
precisely no one will like it. I'm a fat girl and i know it. So if ppl keep telling me the fact i'll get irritated.
ChaoticDarkAngel #2
I don't mind if they point out my bad points nicely, but asking me if I was always fat is not how I like being told I need to loose weight -_-
Minnie_glitzheart #3
Yes you should. Real friends never criticise you. They will tell you, your bad points nicely And won't hurt u in anyway
ChaoticDarkAngel #4
Wow sorry to hear that :( Friends like that don't they? I remember getting great advice from one person; they knew someone for 15 year's and he was a total jerk, but just because that person knew him for that long it didn't mean they were friends or anything.

That same person told me a real friend wouldn't behave like that, and I should end my friendship with her before she really hurts me or something.
Minnie_glitzheart #5
It had been going on for one year. Until i cant stand her anymore that's when i ended the friendship.
Minnie_glitzheart #6
It had been going on for one year. Until i cant stand her anymore that's when i ended the friendship.
Minnie_glitzheart #7
She talked behind my back, criticising me say i'm not serious with my study when she also don care about her own study.
Minnie_glitzheart #8
I would NEVER want this type of friend cause they are rude. I had a friend before she insulted me in every possible way.
ChaoticDarkAngel #9
What? There are overweight people all over the world, even in Asia! Your friend is just rude man sorry to hear that; saying 'you should be skinny' just because your asian? Rascist in my opinion.

I agree. The more I think about it; I think I'm done with this girl. Done.
musicluverxoxo #10
She puts me down because I'm not good at math and she a straight a student and she going to be a doctor well I'm going to be a English teacher . I realize she wasnt a real friend because of how she treated me
musicluverxoxo #11
I have a friend like that she called me fat said I should be skinny because I'm Asian and she only calls me when she needs something and if she with her other friends she ignores me so I try not to talk to her . A real friend would not mock you they will accept you for who you are
ChaoticDarkAngel #12
@E_magine: I think you're right, I know she'll be upset with me but I think it's best if we end our friendship.


@TiaraL: You're absolutely right Tiara; I could care less what someone's weight is, if she were really my friend I don't think she would care how I look.

I'm gonna try to talk to her and just tell her you know?
Thank you :) I hope so too...I just don't know, if she's really my friend or not.
E_magine #13
Well, friends are meant to support you and encourage you right? If she's doing none of that then you need to say goodbye. And do it soon, the longer you ignore her the harder it will become to eventually tell her the truth. That is she is not being a good friend and will have to change that if she still wants to be friends with you.
ChaoticDarkAngel #14
Yeah and she's asked me that in class once >< I was embarassed to say the least thinking 'Oh god I hope no one heard her ask that'.
Indeed. I've said things without thinking before we all have, but I'm still careful not to intentionally HURT someone you know?

She's really iffy honestly. One minute she's nice, were having a pleasent conversation then if I tell her I like Korean music...different story.
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