I just don't get it...PS this is a rant hahaha but I'd love for your thoughts!

dear fellow subscribers and Kpop fans! I might have posted something similar of this before but I'm doing it again, I guess.

I have a question for y'all. I recently turned 31 and I haven't been on a date in a very, very long time. I only ever went out with two guys. Why is it that when I turned 20 men were always asking me out and now that I'm in my thirties it's totally the opposite??

why is it that almost everyone I know has a partner or significant other and not me? Am I not nice enough or pretty enough? Do I not deserve to be happy at all?

this question has really been bothering me and also...why do I even want a BF so bad? Is it really as great as it looks or am I just fooling myself? Why is it so hard for me to find someone and for some other people it seems so much more easier and simple??

sorry guys I'm just really bummed out about this...what do you guys think of this? I don't even know what kind of gf I would make, lol. I just wish I could go on a few more dates or find my soulmate soon! I don't want to be super old and alone :( lol

 

oh well I guess it's just not meant to be for me :(

xoxo

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Ohhani2
#1
To keep it simple. Love would happen it's just that the how can't be determined. Sure you can try dating apps but the right man for you is out there and he would come.
Every woman is beautiful and no one is too old to love. So those men looking for younger girls to their egos can kiss my (pardon my french). They are missing out on an amazing woman.
WhiteChampagne
#2
And don't force it! Tinder's just the quick way to filter through the mans in the city lmaoo but love that blooms naturally is so beautiful. Be patient and don't go for the first guy who seems to be husband material ;-; be careful too <3
WhiteChampagne
#3
"why do I even want a BF so bad?"

Don't feel deterred by people saying you can live a single life to be happy! I'm not in a committed relationship with a man but I am in one with science (and exo but that's irrelevant sjhsjhs), and science says wanting a partner is really as great as it sounds if you find the right person. Humans are social animals, and life can be great alone, but enhanced with someone to share your moments with. Don't give up on your search! ngl Tinder worked great for a lot of my friends (but not me rip) but i still suggest it! Good luck!! There's someone out there for you <3
prettywordsyouleft
#4
I had to learn this... I'm 32 and I've never had a boyfriend. I know its down to some choices I made as a younger person, but also how my lifestyle is now too. All the same, I feel you could do with hearing this, even if you might resent it.
I dreamed of being married, having children, a dog and a good realistic but happy household by my age. It was my long term goal. So I want you to know, I get you. All the same, if you are looking for a partner to "complete" you... truth is, you can complete yourself. If you cannot feel whole as just yourself, as lame and cheesy as this sounds, you can't be at the side of someone else who is whole too. From my experience two parts to make a whole aren't nearly as strong because you rely on someone else to make you whole.
I'd suggest as hard as it is, to focus on bringing the best version of yourself to the surface in 2019. Don't focus on this "I'm forever alone" side, and focus on goals for YOU. Spoil yourself mentally and physically. Read more, experience more, and to hell with those inhibitions holding you back. Do something you've always wanted to do.
Along the journey, you might find whatever was holding you back is gone and you will find someone. And if not, at least you're still living your best life.
I have hope that you will reach all your dreams, but it starts with you.
I had to learn this when I was on an anxiety recovery course and I've really come to accept that if I only focus on what I don't have, I won't realise what I do have :)
All the best Xxx
Tety_Vences #5
Well i think your very nice! Maybe you just haven't found the one yet, love comes when it wants too, do not force it because if you do. It wont work, at least thats what i think. Maybe people are afraid to ask a very very very beautiful person that has a kind heart! You don't need to think very hard, when you least expect it, you'll find someone whose like a best friend, who you can be yourself without fear. You can always try to go on blind dates and see but just remember, when you meet, you'll know that he's the one. Love cannot be forced, once you stop forcing it, you will experience love and happiness. There's no set age to fall in love, yes others can already be with their other half while others aren't. Do not force it, my love. Dear, you may think it's yourself thats at fault and do not deserve love but let me tell you dear, its not. You may heed hy advice but that is your choice, not mine nor anyone else, yours and yours alone.