DISCLAIMER:

This blogpost is probably really controversial but I'm just ... exhausted from work and it feels like this is something that needs to be said... 

Good day!

Earlier, while browsing facebook, I saw an "attitude scandal" that an actor had gotten himself into by apparently being cold during a press conference and not reacting to Seohyun who reached out towards him.

They have happened a million times before; a scandal in which a k-celebrity is chastised for whatever attitude they supposedly had. 

Many comments were chastising the actor for being rude and "work setting so you have to be professional and he wasn't so this scandal is 100 % justified and he's a ". 

That's paraphrasing, of course, but it seems that's more or less what's being said. 

"This person has a horrible attitude and is very rude because they weren't able to uphold professionalism to a degree I believe is required". 

It was mentioned multiple times that the actor should've cancelled the press conference like he has any influence on that.... He didn't set the date of the press conference, he was just asked to show up. He can't cancel a press conference like that, guys, please. The idea that the actor can sit back and say "hey, having a bad day, can't go" would be disrespectful to not only the press who'd taken time off to go but also fellow actors, directors and other staff present at the press conference.

You don't do that. (I mean, if he did he'd probably end up with the same attitude scandal so I guess it's lose-lose.)

And look, I work. I have been working in the past few years in a hospital which is not exactly the most relaxed working situation. I know people who work in retail are stressed to the max and I know there are lots of working environments which are just really hard to work in. 

But guys, we all have bad days. We all have days where we barely sleep and we all have days where it's just not going very well and everything's a mess. 

That's human.

I, of all people, understand that it's also important to uphold a certain facade to the public, especially in a position like an actor.

But I just don't think it's fair to assume they're unprofessional if they show us their humanity.

It's okay to be a little spaced out, it doesn't warrant the label "rude". It's okay to cry during the loss of a loved one (such as people who gave Red Velvet's Yeri for having difficulty holding in her tears shortly after Jonghyun's death, like seriously???). It's okay to miss clues or oversee somebody reaching out for us because our minds are elsewhere. 

We have all done it. Idols do it too.

Being a professional when working is important. Knowing your boundaries are also important. Unfortunately for many celebrities, they can't just take a day off when it's all going bonkers like many of us ordinary people because they have public schedules most of the time. They are in the lime light constantly, sometimes even at home. 

I know, when I simply broke down and started crying my coworker rubbed my back and asked me to take 5 or 10 minutes or however long I needed to collect myself again. An actor in a press conference room can't just take 30 minutes after breaking down in tears, I guarantee that would make more headlines.

If I have had a horrible night I tell my coworkers "I'm exhausted and I haven't slept a lot tonight so sorry if I'm a little grumpy". If an actor said so to his coworkers before a press conference we'd never know.

This is really not to defend any idol or actor who does something overly rude because of course, rude people exist. They're everywhere, goddammit. But to chastise an idol for being human ... That's you know....

So right, you can use any other argument but if you're in an "attitude scandal", please rethink the "they're just not professional"/"they should've been more professional"-argument.

Professionalism are many things. It shouldn't be an excuse to hate on people.

Oh, and to round up the actor-case; I know his agency excused it all with "method acting" which was ridiculous. Like, that's it - that was just plain ridiculous. Whether or not the actor truly is rude, I guess we'll only know if we meet him.