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I know I shouldn`t really be saying this here but idc anyway around. I`m 16(well my birthday isn`t over yet but whatever) this year, my family(mostly my parents) ask what do I want to do or be when I grow up. I never really answer their questions, cause I don`t even dare to tell my parents what I actually want to be.

none of my family members know what I want to be, but some of my friends know. some say just follow your dreams, some say just listen to your parents, it`s for the best. i`m turning 17 next year and I only have a little time to be in collage, I still don`t know how to tell my parents that... their daughter wants to be something they`ll never agree to.

maybe I`ll end up like Suga just not the part where my parents support me. If you`re asking whether my dream is to be an idol? yes, yes it is. I never think that i have the looks, vocals or any talent for that but some of my friends say i have. but that doesn`t mean i think i have any talent for that, i think i have zero talent for that. i want to learn music and maybe compose my own first song but...i never really learn anything about music, so even i have the lyrics and the rhythm in my head i can`t do anything further than that.

i wanted to try and go for an audition but i didn`t get the reply so i couldn`t go and i don`t live in korea. and i know if i tell my mom about this, she`ll laugh at me and then do anything she can to just...idk...but so far...they`ll do anything to stop me, i know it`s for my own good but idk what i want to do or be. 

i study chem, phy, add maths, accounts but...tbh i know i won`t be using them when i first started. i did told my friends maybe i could just be like Suga and leave home but at least he lives in korea, it`ll be much more easier.

should i give up on this and follow what my parents tells me or idk disobey my parents, being disowned(maybe) and follow my dreams?

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goldxntrbl
#1
i think that you should try and audition and just see if you get it. you seem to want to do it, and music is cool and if you have the passion for it i feel like its only right for you to pursue your dream. you are lucky to know what you want your future to look like, i, a fellow sixteen years old, is completely cluesless and hopeless whenever it comes to my future.

you also take very hard subjects and i mean, other occupations are cool too. but if you really feel like music is for you, then do it. there is no point in being in a career you do not care about. it will only leave you misrable.
Glimmer01 #2
Hello! I saw your post and I think that it’s a really interesting topic and decided to reply. Forgive the awkwardness please! So, about what you said, its good to have dreams but before you dive in straight I guess its impt to consider the risks as well. Like, being an idol is tough, there’s no guarantee of debut, you train like mad etc and I think your parents have your interests at heart. Okay I realise I sound preachy but now that’s out of the way, the good part is, sometimes you don’t have to choose. Like, a lot of ppl think its either a career in entertainment or a career their parents want for them but you can do both. For me, I’m currently in college doing a degree that my parents approve of but on the side I dance too. I think you can try that? Like maybe talk to your parents about doing music/idol stuff on the side but ofc promise to not neglect your grades. And I think trying this out also gives u a taste of the hardships of idol life cos from personal experience, sometimes you have to train aft sch till like 11pm and juggle studies w your other stuff, so you can see if the industry is rly for you. I actually know some ppl who have day jobs/are studying but are rly gd dancers too so before you do anything too drastic rmb sometimes you can have both, and before you commit fully kniw what you’re heading into. All the best and do talk more to me if you have thoughts/questions! Sry for the awk message from this stranger hehe
sleepingprince
#3
First of all , it's good that you have a dream. At least you know what you want . 16 is a young age .You still have time to think more about what you want to be and do before really deciding for real. Have asked yourself what kind of idol do you want to be ? What kind of genre of music are you into? Can you see yourself going through all the process from audition , trainings , tight regime , strict rules , diets , being far away from family , pressure , criticism , lack of privacy ? Look , vocal , talent are important but that they can train and always work something out for you . But there's more that they are looking for . You need to have your own identity and style. You need to have the confidence . Mostly you need to be healthy too. Your parents might go against it , because entertainment industry is brutal . They would not want you to get hurt . How about you first study hard , get a degree as your back up ? These days there's too many idols . It's very competitive. And if you want to gain respect and secure yourself , I think you should study first . Once you have done what you should , then maybe your parents are more willing to let you chase after your dreams instead of just risking everything without a solid plan . During school break , you can go for music class to learn instrument and etc . That way you will at least have some basic . Then try to find / create opportunity for yourself .. What you need is experience. Go and join school performance . If there's any wedding or parties , go volunteer yourself to sing . You can also do street performance especially in tourist spot (but of course with permission and permit from authority ) From there evaluate the audience response. That's how you grow . If you can passed through that , then maybe only you can start thinking about wanting to be idol. Usually , in this industry , you need to have some personal contact / relation especially with the person that work in this field . Normally people in this field will make recommendation to the manager .. Then if you know or have friends in this field , they might recommend your name .. From there the manager might consider based on your experience and etc if he wants to meet you . Like just briefly . So your first impression is important. Then slowly your chance grow from there .. Normally your chances are higher if they come for you . Not the other way. So to be notice by managers/ staff , you need to join competition and do something really outstanding for them to take notice. You need to first make your own name. About lyrics and stuff , actually you can start by listening to all kind of songs of different genre . Read and understand the lyrics. Lyrics reading will help you alot . From there you can slowly draft your own . Go watch YouTube tutorial and etc . If you have friends that studies sound engineering and etc that's even better . You can learn alot from these people. Basically , nothing is impossible . You just need to have the right thinking and attitude. Try talk to your parents about it. Study and chase after your dreams. Compromise . That way your parents wouldn't feel too worried. Since , not everyone can make it. I hope that my tips and advise will help you. Believe in yourself , believe more in your dreams. All the best to you .