Now y'all shut the up and listen to me. 

You are entitled to nothing. 

You are owed nothing. 

You are owed no one, and no one owes you a ing thing. 

Did you catch that? 

NOTHING. 

Y'all are some toxic motherers, that's for sure. I'm so ing fed up with the whining and self-victimization over someone else living their ing life. In recent news, Luhan has gotten a girlfriend and suddenly, the internet (AFF/Tumblr/Twitter in particular) goes haywire. Why, you ask? Because apparently we live in an age where it's fine do a full on 180 shift and turn from someone's fan to their biggest hater in a matter of moments, because they're suddenly not what you want them to be. 

You selfish pricks.

This... this is exactly why we can't have nice things. Why do you think people shy away from the kpop fandoms? Huh? Why do you think they're ashamed to admit that they like kpop? It's because of s among us who have this perception of a person as nothing more than an object. A projection of the ideal, a blank canvas with cookie cutter tendencies which is supposed to fit the mold for every single fangirl out there. 

Let's take a second and break down the product description of the average idol, shall we? 

• A good looking idol is a necessity in order to achieve success. Having no invasive surgery is rare, having no minor procedures is rarer. 
• A dirt-free past is a plus, but not a must. Propagation of a kind personality is supplied by the company. 
• Pick any position whatsoever, and add a "personal touch" to the screen time - examples include a wink, finger/hand hearts, saying hello with a special hand gesture. A false sense of individuality is built up with this. 
• Partake in any and all reality shows and group documentaries. Show the so-called "individuality" by displaying quirky skills - examples include making a varity of animal sounds, being able to do the splits upside down or whatever, doing impressions of other celebrities. 
• Make a fried chicken CF.
• After the arbitrary time set by the company, create an Instagram or Twitter account and cash in on followers and endorsement deals (look at my nice [random item] that I conveniently have on display here wowowow). 
• When asked about the other members, state that you love them unconditionally and would never have made a different choice of career or lifestyle (other than, naturally, that you "wish you had worked harder to show a better self to the fans" and "I'm sorry for my parents because hardships"). 

There. There you ing go. That's the recipe for the average, generic idol. Guess what? Luhan fits all of these in one way or another. Don't hand me any ing bull about how he never had surgery or that he always hated the rest of EXO, because I don't give a and neither should you. This rant isn't about that. 

This rant is about how fans - you (yes, you) - keep making assumptions which are based on the strange misunderstanding that Luhan is somehow different from all the rest of the ing idols that are out there. What you perceive as him being different is not different at all, it is just another take on the product that SM Entertainment chose to put out. Luhan was an investment to SME, as are all the other disposable members of all the other groups that are out there. It's the same ing case with your bias and all the other biases in the industry, they are not different from each other on more than surface level. True personality is stifled and idols are typically strained with a muzzle in order to attain the highest amount of fans by staying generic. 

Now that I've gone over why he isn't any different, I'd like to talk about how I can't ing stand the pettiness of the kpop community. 

you all. 

you for thinking that your voice on another person's life and lifestyle should matter. you for thinking that you are important strictly because you have a fanclub membership. you for having blatant double standards and you again for applying them however you god damn wish. 

You know, for claiming to be such an inclusive community, we sure do ing hate each other and our idols. It's disgusting. Do you know that? It's enraging, insulting and abhorrent and you should know better. You should DO better. 

One of the many reasons why I dislike the kpop fandom is especially the pettiness. It's a very small-minded business to think that because you can say something online then it means something, it must mean something in the echo chamber that is kpop. Your influence is determined not by the fact that you have well-rounded opinions and that you back your up with facts, but by your choice of hateful commentary. Y'all can't stand when an outsider goes "dang, they look like girls", but y'all are ing fine with telling Luhan that he should kill himself because he isn't what your greedy asses thought he would be forever. 

A person I recently spoke to deactivated her account here on AFF because Luhan got a girlfriend. Yes, that's true. I'm not afraid to say this, and I'm not afraid to tell her how ed up that is, should she ever see this blog post if she decides to come back. You are ed up, fam. I cannot believe that you stand for this. 

The reason she gave me was (and I quote): 

He is dating someone
He is behaving like a real person.
He is not a doll anymore to whom I can attribute my own fantasies.

Do y'all ing see this ? The disillusion is real. I feel such incredible second-hand shame and anger that this is the actual reasoning behind such a bland and pointless choice. The worst part of this is that she stated a pretty ing violent wish just prior to sending these messages, because she felt like a fool and felt cheated.

HOW DO YOU NOT SEE THAT THIS DOESN'T ING AFFECT YOU? 

Look, I get it. I get the mentality of objectifying a person because it stems from the fact that Korean entertainment companies are factories churning out products with their own labels. This, however, isn't taken with a ing bathtub of salt, because within the kpop fandom, it's COMPLETELY FINE if you disregard the fact that you don't matter to them and that you never will. 

Luhan got a yojachangoo???! And she's jjinjjja younger than him?!!!!!!?? Oh my god he doesn't saranghee me, I have to kill myself....... That ING TRAITOR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! HOW CAN HE DO THIS TO HIS FANS!!!!! OTTOKEEEE!!!!!! I've loved him since predebut...... We deserve better tbqh!!!!!!!!! That shribal !!!

Oh, sorry? What was that? This little imitation is spot on? Why, yes. You're right. It is spot on, because when you're a fan of kpop you have the wonderful privilege of seeing this crap every ing day. 

It doesn't matter what the ing issue is, does it? I've been around kpop for a long- time, I know what I'm talking about. Whether it comes down to the Allkpop flamewar articles on "Who wore it better???" or Chosun Ilbo/Sports Seoul posting candid shots of two idols on a date, you'll have the same outcome. Hateful cowards online who elect to believe that they are somehow relevant when they state that these people need to ing die because they like each other.

It's cute though, how you think that because your bias/fave idol is an advocate for donating rice in times of need and poverty or that they support LGBT rights then that somehow reflects back onto you. You're clearly a better person now, because you read about how your favorite kiyopda boy or girl is better than you will ever be. Of course! Why wouldn't that reflect back on you? I mean, you were there to retweet the pictures of them from their predebut times, you've posted photos of buying their albums on Instagram, and you've even written saucy fanfiction about how they are like, totally badass and a mafia spy assassin agent. You spammed every single person you know (whose reaction wouldn't yield bad repercussions) about how they should stream their new song, because otherwise someone else might win that prize! And let's face it, the boys/girls worked so hard for this and they DESERVE IT. THEY DESERVE THE WIN AND IF YOU DISAGREE THEN YOU'RE A ING ANTI AND YOU CAN GO DIE IN A HOUSE FIRE kthanks. <3<3

The idol is not your posession. 

They are a human. A person with a life that doesn't affect yours, that you would never know about had it not been for the fact that they release touching music and pictures. 

You are a guest in their home of talent and hard work. A guest in what they have chosen to surrender for the public to see. 

You are so spoiled and well treated in their home. Why do you think you are allowed to overstep your welcome? Why do you so frequently do it? Why do you think that you should all over them the moment they ask you to refrain from opening a door? 

No, sure. Tear the paintings down. Set fire to the furniture. Rip up the wallpaper. 

Because they deserve it, right? They've disrespected you, told you that you weren't allowed to go into their own room. Yeah, them. They deserve it. 

... right? 

I'm out, es. Y'all are ing crazy. 

EDIT: As Peodbear points out below, there is naturally a right to join and leave a fandom arbitrarily. I want to clarify with my point that I made in the first few paragraphs that when you turn into an anti-fan and leave the fandom, there is an obvious element of freedom to it. I tend to speak harshly, and this time is no exception; I should lay out my intention with talking about this, and that is that while I rant at length I am still a firm believer in democracy and autonomy. I'll say this and I'll say it a thousand times more should the need arise: you need not stay loyal to your idol no matter what they do. What you elect to do with your spare time is your business. There is, however, an excellent expression that can be applied to this situation. 

Opinions are like s, everybody has one.

This was said by Clint Eastwood in the character of Dirty Harry in The Dead Pool in 1988. It's how I feel about a lot of in life, and I'll never be scared to speak my mind on this. Do not mistake my anger for the lack of core values, as I feel that you are inherently free to do as you wish in an ideal egalitarian world. I think the aim with this series and in part with my rants is that I want to point out the ridiculousness of fandom mentality. Again, just like Peodbear stated, you are free to come and go as you like, but you may be subjected to scrutiny and criticism during that time. 

Also, I'd like to thank you all for weighing in on this. I see some good people out there, and I hope that whatever wholesome values y'all have rub off on everyone and everything that is around you. Keep speaking up and comment on these blogs so I have some people to identify with. For the record, I'd like to echo Peodbear's hope that this will only change for the better in future years. You're right, it's already gotten better, but now we have a shot at making this "better future" a reality. Advocate for what is good and call people out on their bull.