Regarding the story which was featured the other day and my future on this website (a short goodbye)

The story has been taken down. Thank you to all the users who reported that story and who still take a firm stand against ia and hebephilia. Thank you to those who have commented in support of this blog post and who have expressed their disgust over it having been featured. Lastly, thank you to those of you who have voiced your support of me continuing with my blogs and my commentary. I appreciate it. 

On that note, I'd like to point out how absolutely baffling it is that in this day and age, we still have people who don't have a problem with ia and hebephilia. I am astounded and saddened by the state of young (?) users who believe that this story had no issues, who thought that it was cute, loving and plain romantinc. It feels as though there is a widespread condition of insanity on AFF, where users wield the bats of free speech and freedom of opinion strictly to be able to tell themselves that there is nothing wrong with what they are writing or doing. 

Yes, there is something wrong with it. There is something wrong, even if it is "just a story", even if "the people aren't real". How on Earth can we remove ourselves further with the things we produce? Aren't the people we're writing about integral parts of the stories we write? This brings me back to the very first blog post I made about why I can't stand AFF. We write about very real people who have lives of their own, thoughts and feelings and most of all, they are not who we think they are. We do not know them. They are not Harry Potter characters, whose deepest thoughts and emotions we get to partake in because the books reveal them, they are not TV-show characters like Sherlock Holmes, whose nitpicky habits we get to see each episode.

They are real. Humans. They are made from blood, flesh and bone, not words on a paper. Not a man acting out a script. 

I have never and likely will never understand how we can write such incredibly degrading, disrespectful and ually assaulting prose about them, when we know that they are aware of it happening to them. They know that fanfiction is written about them, and yet we have not ceased to write terrible, terrible things, because we chalk it up to our own enjoyment. Why is it that there are so many users on here who say that "this is just a story, the people aren't real"? What the do you mean that they aren't real? Yes, they are, that's the whole ing point. We include photos, gifs and edited posters with these people in them, we take their personal pictures from their Instagram pages to lend a feeling of "reality" to our stories. We add their real character traits to our stories, we show YouTube clips of them interacting to force that very element of reality. 

What the do you mean "they aren't real"? 

I think leaving this website has been long overdue. I should not have opened an account here to begin with and I should definitely not have condoned so many of the horrible things that people write in the name of creativity. 

It was nice to talk to some of you. Merry Christmas, happy new year.

Take care of yourselves. 

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againhello
#1
It’s a darn pity that you chose to leave AFF (altho I do understand why, I too face the same dilemma- to stay or to leave in a place where it’s no longer quality products that are featured 100%, in a place where immoral storylines are ‘accepted’. I feel like gone are the days where there are good stories left in AFF- don’t get me wrong, I’m sure there are but it’s getting so hard finding them amidst all the crappy stuff that’s piling up). I admire you and your courage to be honest and your blog post speaks volume. I wish you nothing but the best for your future!!
ExoticMia
#2
Damn.. And so the sane people continue to slip away from this site.
It makes sense. I've often wondered whether or not to stop writing and stop being on this site because I'm so acutely aware that the people we write about are real and it's inherently creepy to write about real people whether or not the stories are as horrifyingly immoral as the story that got taken down are. What followed for me was the conclusion that the people who consider those things, or do leave the site because of these things, are usually not the cause of this problematic writing or the people supporting that kind of writing.
Then the question remains, do I stay here to try and fight that by calling out problematic content like you do, or writing my own stories promoting healthy relationships, or satire so heavy that no reader can escape it and even the most hardcore of fans will have to accept that "okay this is a little creepy".
That second option is becoming harder and harder with all the decent quality writers jumping ship. For now, I guess I will stick around a little longer and finish the stories I started, but maybe I'll leave too one day.
I hope to read some of your work in a different place, maybe. All the best to you, god of rants!
Hellody
#3
There goes one of the silver linings on this gray cloud of mess. *My Heart Will Go On plays*
fefedove
#4
the sane people of this site are slowly being driven away. i'm sad to see you go, but honestly, i'm close to leaving as well. anyway, merry christmas and happy new year to you too!
MissMinew
#5
Det er lidt trist at høre at du har tænkt dig at te, men hvis det er sådan du har det med AFF så forstår jeg egentlig også godt. Der er ikke meget af værdi herinde hjemme.

God jul og godt nytår til dig også!
Irnbru121
#6
I totally agree with you and I am glad that ''fanfic'' taken down I do wonder if the author had said anything regarding her ''story'' been taken down :L

it's a shame you have to go good luck on your life (:
Merry Christmas to you (:
Lidashen
#7
Merry Christmas, Happy New Year. Good luck on whatever you have decided to do.
Lidashen
#8
Aww, but I understand. It's tougher to stay if you are a reader that looks for stories to read and you met with such standard. Though I think the writer on here are so young and influenced by popularity and no one pointing out what they wrote is wrong, they will continue to write in such ways until they grew out of it.
MoonFlower9 #9
Well said & I totally agree with you.

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year! Have a great holiday!
bohubear
#10
I'm sad to see you go, as there will be one less person who isn't afraid to point the bull AFF keeps on pulling and with whom you can have an actual conversation, but I understand your reasons why. I'm surprised you've stayed this long. I wonder what fuels me to remain as well.

Well, good luck on your future ventures. Hope wherever you go, you'll have a far better experience than on this site. Perhaps we'll stumble upon each other again. It was a pleasure to go back and forth in your blogs on different topics and read your thoughts whenever possible. It truly was.
Mishtique
#11
Totally understandable ♥
Good luck in the future, hope you have nice holidays and that next year will bring you good news ♥
YeojaUiMongsang
#12
Well, this is sad to see, but, I guess this is goodbye then. For now? I'm not sure if you're ever gonna come back or not (since you said 'short goodbye' and stuff) but I hope to see word from you once more in the future and would love to see you comeback sometime. Like a lot of the others have said, you were really cool, and it always to see the peeps I come to meet and befriend on AFF go. It's understandable though, and I get that you gotta do what you gotta do.

Merry Christmas and Happy New Years to you as well! Have a good one and take care of yourself!
uoosemi
#13
You are seriously right about that issue. Sometimes I feel like nausea reading about how fans talking about their bias n idols like them n all. It's true that they are real! We take their damn personality and write stories and use their names. Maybe someone can point out that that is called fan fiction but to me fan fiction must have a limit! I see n read a lot of fanfics crossing that line. Gah~ seriously the only thing I can say now is.... I feel you!
vividimole
#14
I followed your blogs from day one and so far I agree with everything. I'm glad that someone decided to speak about these horrible issues.
Merry Christmas :) Take care of yourself too. Do you have a social media account where I can find you? (If that's alright)