Pleeeeeeeease help me please

one of my BFFS told me about a really big problem with her family and needs help that i can't give her I texted her to promise me she would get someone who could help her better than me but she hasn't texted back I'm really worried idk what to do but I know I'm hugging her so tight when I see her at school tomorrow i really want to help her but i don't know how I really need help it pains me to even see her like this and when our other BFF is around she acts fine and she doesn't want me to tell her cause she has problems to and I'm so worried between the two of them they've both talked about self harm and even suicide I really really want to help but I don't know how I also have my fair share of problems but they have many more i seriously cry just thinking about them going away for summer and I don't even want to think about what would happen if they were gone forever does anybody know how else I can help them they know I'm there for  them but they are heasitant to reach out to me please help  *thank u to those of u who gave me advice thank u a lot and I will definitely use it*

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Infinite0 #1
My older sister suffered from a form of depression, and for me my biggest regret was not being there for her, when she needed my whole family the most . Reach out to her, even if she doesn't, self-harm is a very serious thing. I think you should stay by her side even if she won't tell you answers and hold out until she tells you, actions do speak louder then words. If she doesn't want to tell you, maybe she isn't ready, but hold out for her. In my opinion, being there for her is the best thing you can do. Can you tell me her problem, I could probably give some better advice
EriTay #2
All you have to do is show them that you care and that you will always be there for them. I happen to have the same problems as you but for some people I tried to help and I thought I failed when rather they thanked me and said I'm good at making them feel better. Just talking to them might be enough. Just show your love and tell them that the future holds better for them, and just keep being the great friend that you are. You sound like you really care for them and love them, so you should calm down. Panicking won't help tho
uniquelynothing #3
um.. I have had a friend that was going to depression and was already committing self-harm on herself. The way I handle the situation was that instead of questioning her, I tried to give encouragement or make her laugh. I tried to distract her whenever she looks like she is thinking about something. I hangout with her and go to places with her as much as possible for her to loosen up a little from her problems. I think just being there and listening to them does come in handy. But if it does become a huge problem I think seeing a therapist would help?
Heartsmith #4
Can u tell me what's her problem is? Maybe I can give u advice what u can do for her.
But the most important thing is u have to stay beside her. Listen to her more.. Check her every time.
Sometimes problematic people just need someone who will listen to their problem not a problem solver. Make sure ur always there :)
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