ANYONE CAN EXPLAIN WHY??

          Why did couple always fight but, in the end they make up again and fight again about things that shouldn't be argue about... Like maybe the girls is jealous about something or the topic is so irrelevant to argue... And then, when the guys is cheating on someone or the guys treat the girl like trash or maybe hurt them they said it's ok because I love him... I means what the ... With all the bruises she said it's ok?? And then, they broke up and then get back together again and then broke up again and then together again... Sometimes I wonder what is the meaning of love?? Is love is about accepting all our loved one do to us?? Is love is about giving second chance, third chance and more chances to our ex hoping for them to realize their mistakes and then not gonna do it again because all that is bull... They're not gonna repent and realize of we didn't tell or stop them from hurting us... I sometimes think that no matter how much smarter the girl or human is, they can't run away to be the love slave.. I did not blaming the love but, blaming the people whom have been tricked to be the love slave... I think that's why I always have problems in committing in my relationship... I always feel afraid that I'd be the same as my friends whom some have even been tricks into unhappy marriage by the guy whom she thought would love and care for her and it's ok to leave her dreams to continue her study for the guy... But, real world is not fairy-tale where unicorn, happily ever after and Santa exist... She ends up married to abusive husband... She said it's ok because she love him so much and he didn't meant to hurt her... He loves her... That what she always say... It's totally hurting to see her like that... Women are weak to love no matter how successful them are... Sometimes I wondering if true love is a myth and also if soulmate is also a myth like unicorn... I never found people who found their true love or soulmate... I even doubt my parents love... Sure, they love each other but I've asked my dad, if he could turn back times before he married my mom, would he married her??  My dad hesitate at first but, he told me truthfully, that I'd not gonna married my mom and I was cool about it because I've expected that answer... And there is my mom whom like to be in the spot light and the center of attractions and like to be care and also been paid attention to always but, with the amount of work my father always do whenever he go home, that's impossible... There is this one guy who knew about this and take his chance to befriended her and seduced her to mooch her money... My mom almost fall into his traps if not for us finding about the truth about her relationship with that guy... My mom try to deny it but, guilt make her lie more obvious... I don't know if they still contact each other but, it seems that my mom didn't contact him anymore... I hope so... I always wondering if I ever experience true love or if it's ever exist in the first place... Can Someone told me and convinced me about love?? I always find love is like a drugs and ... It's addicting and dangerous but people didn't know it... My relationship is always end up not too long because I'm afraid of getting too attached and couldn't let go... It's always me whom the one who ask to break up and when the guy ask why, I just said that I could not do commitment and always have trouble in committed in relationship... I like to be free... The guys would be so mad at me and didn't text me or call me anymore but, they always end up calling me a week or maybe earlier that that to get back together but, I firmly said I'm done with you... I can't do love and I'm too afraid to be in love... I end up getting a new no after that... Thank god I didn't tell them where my house is or they would go there... Do you all have the same fear like me??

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Silencedshadow #1
Love is tricky. You can think you're in love but in reality you may only be phisically attracted to a person. Love is also attraction, but the focuse is not on that, it's on respect and mutual understanding, even self sacrifice. To me, love means putting someone else before me. If i marry one day, i want to be the best wife to my husband, and help him become the best man he can be. But i wouldn't marry someone who loves me the same way. I also believe that what you put into a relationship is what you get out of it. If you don't love the person, and don't show him love, you can't expect him to give you what you can't give him.
I know people that started their marriages only to end up in divorce, and it's a painful thing to go through, but in most of the cases there have been problemes there from the start, problems that were neglected, they married and those problems became bigger and attracted more problems.
I'm not saying i'm an expert, but i do believe love exists, because i have seen it in a lot of marriages, and it's one of the most beautiful things that exists. I have friends that are married and that have never been happier. So it is possible. But it also depends on the person you find, because people need to be sincere in a relationship.
I hope you find a nice guy, that treats you with respect and loves you unconditionally. :)
kimsfangirl #2
I am never being too attached to any boy before so I don't know exactly the feeling of losing someone. But my BF now so far is the longest relationship I've ever been and the only boy that I get back with. Usually I had no regrets when committing a break up, but for the last one, I felt a little bit sad because the reason was the most not reasonable one *you had known the case* so when he asked for a second chance, it only took me 2 days to agree because after all, we still like each other
LIUtheSONE #3
can you cut it shorter sorry but i had a headache after reading this cuz of the words squeezed together and everything >.< can u summarize it.. sorry
but regarding your last few sentences, what kind of fear are your talking bout? ._. sorry but my eyes recently got some problems :>