Speechless.

Did you guys ever have that weird feeling that you just need to hug someone? I'm actually quite touchy, so because of all the stress that I'm getting from school, life and whatnot, I just needed a shoulder to lean on. And it so happens that the only person available at that moment is this guy friend of mine whom I've known for a couple of years now, so we're pretty close. Or so I thought.

So I'm sitting at this bar, just totally mind-fried, trying to get my wits together, so I'm like, "Hey Rick, can I borrow your shoulder?" I thought that he'd be OK with a hug, so I just gave him one because I felt really bad at that moment. You know what he does? He just shakes me off like some bug, tells me he "can't cheat" on his GF, and tells me to control my lust. I'm like WTF dude?!

I mean, I wasn't even touching him anywhere weird or anything. I just leaned my head on his shoulder and put one arm around his neck. Is that weird here in the States or what? But he's not speaking with me and I'm so pissed right now.

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softsology #1 Oct 19, 2014 22:23:35

that's so lame
he is totally overreacting
but then again here in the U.S. people are kinda like that
My friends always think I'm flirting with other guys because I like to hug them and link arms and do all that sorta couple-y stuff but it's kinda natural for close friends to do that
I think he's just being immature
How does a hug = lust???

Panda-Chu #2 Oct 19, 2014 11:13:52

-pounces on you and cuddles and clings-
:3

kimsfangirl #3 Oct 18, 2014 06:41:44

If you're living here in my country, that's weird and well that's actually what couples do. But since you are living in states I think it's not weird at all. And he is a bit overreacting.
Ans well, his act is annoying. And tbh, his act of not talking to you is childish

Ciel15 #4 Oct 18, 2014 04:22:44

His words were over the top, but he probably just misunderstood your actions. To be honest, many Americans tend to react based on habit. If you're someone that has always initiated skinship with your friend, then they will grow into rhe habit and act on it in any situation. However, if skinship isn't something the two people normally do, then sudden skinship is seen in a romantic perspective. I'm basing this from my experiences, so I may be wrong, but I think your friend is probably thinking that you're suddenly interested him and he doesn't know how to react since he.has a girlfriend. I say you talk to him once you cool down a bit and tell him that you were looking for some comfort and support from a friend and nothing more. He'll understand if you just clear up the misunderstanding and he'll most likely apologize for his words and actions. Good luck! :)

Moonstarrr #5 Oct 18, 2014 03:16:00

I do think he over reacted with what he said, but I can see where he must have misunderstood your actions. Unless it was super close friends that were always on the touchy side, most Americans (in my opinion) would see it more in a "romantic" light (as opposed to a quick hug). It's not cool that he isn't speaking to you, but he's probably just a bit freaked out and doesn't know how to handle it. My best advice is to give yourself a chance to calm down and then explain you were merely looking for his support as a friend and nothing more. It may be a slightly awkward conversation, but if it's a good friendship it will be worth it.