So apparently, Super Junior's Sungmin is going to be married in December. No, i'm not an elf, nor does my opinion really matter, but I am a kpop fan who knows some stuff about Korea and I don't even know why i'm writing this... but yeah.

At first, I really didn't care. I didn't have any strong opinions about it. I was quite glad that Sungmin announced it himself and that an idol is actually getting married... publicly. Although I did find it strange that he announced his marriage a few weeks after he announced his relationship. I was a bit skeptical about the whole "Sungmin relationship" thing since SMENT has been "busy" with all the dating stuff of GG, Sulli, Kris and Luhan's lawsuit, and Jessica being kicked out from the group. I thought they would be needing something to cover up those stuff and they thought Sungmin would be a great cover up and stuff... but I guess not. I guess he added up to SM's "problems". 

I actually found it sweet at first and quite "possible" since they said that Sungmin met Saeun at their musical. I thought it was quite realistic. My positive thoughts had to be disturbed by Saeun though. I saw her posts about "dating Sungmin has given her problems" and stuff and that she's suffering from bullying. Well what did you expect? You're dating a Super Junior member dude! No... you're marrying a Super Junior member! You should've expected it beforehand. Even if it's not right for fans to act like that, as a "rookie actor", meh even just as a person, you should know what you're dealing with! Yeah, love is blah blah and stuff. But you should know the consequences of your actions. I'm not hating much on her, but what I do hate is her reaction to the happenings, and i'm a bit bitter since she kissed Dongjun. Meh~ Just joking. I'm over it. Go and love anyone you want but you should know what you're doing. And you don't have the right to complain about what others reactions are about what YOU did since that's their opinion and you should've prepared yourself before hand. Talking like that will make ELFs hate you more. If you act nicer, maybe not all, but a lot of ELFs will change their thoughts about you.

I guess I can't blame Saeun much either. Especially with what I found out from my ELF friend recently. Apparently, Sungmin has been planning the wedding ever since May. Some K-ELFs already knew about it and kept on asking for Sungmin to announce it already. It was only now that he really announced it. I dunno, maybe if he announced it sooner, ELFs would've had more time to accept it. But no, he announced the wedding a few weeks after they announced the relationship. People are just getting used with Sungmin having a girlfriend, and suddenly they find out he's getting married immediately. AND apparently, the Super Junior members doesn't know Saeun. It's also been a while since Sungmin has been planning the wedding. He asked SM Entertainment, the SuJu members, and his family for  their blessing. All of them refused, yet he still went on with the wedding. I'm not so sure about the contract between SM and Sungmin, but isn't that violating the contract? SMEnt said no, didn't they? Yet he still went on with it. Everyone said no. You guys are probably thinking "why would they say no? They should support Sungmin!". Again, let me repeat... SMEnt, Sungmin's PARENTS, and the MEMBERS said no. Why? Simple. Marriage isn't a joke. Let me point this out, Sungmin is only 28 years old, 29 in Korea. He still hasn't fulfilled his military service. Getting married before fulfilling your military service is a big no no in Korea. It happens, but it's a big no no. It's even considered selfish. Why? By time, Sungmin will have to enter the military. Fulfilling the military service in Korea is their kind of way of "being a man".  He will spend 2 years there. Sure Saeun can visit and stuff, but not so frequent. Can you imagine starting your first years of marriage, visiting your husband in the military? I remember when Ji Hyun Woo and Yoo In na's break up was revealed, Koreans were calling him selfish. Why? He mad a commitment to her right before he entered military. And Sungmin is in fact entering the military soon. He made her wait. Sungmin is making Saeun wait. He's making her wait for 2 years to live a normal wedded life. Sure, love is a strong thing, and distance won't break it and stuff. But is it really? With the countless happenings of people breaking up because of distance, is love really that strong? The love between Saeun and Sungmin... is it really that strong? We're not sure. I'm not sure. I'm pretty sure Sungmin might be sure, but only time will tell. Another thing is that although SMEnt says that nothing will change with the marriage announcement and stuff, that's not true. Marriage is a big thing. It's a bond and commitment between two people. They have to spend everyday with one another. They have to live together, and soon they have to have a baby together. How is that not gonna change stuff? Sungmin will have to spend a lot of time with Saeun. He has to devote a lot of time to Saeun, and the same with Saeun. Just look at Sunye. Look, I love Sunye and I totally support her decision in getting married. That's life. Sunye didn't leave Wonder Girls, and look what happened to Wonder Girls. Yeeun is busy with solo promotions, Yubin is busy with collabs with them and stuff, Sohee left. I don't even blame Sohee that much for leaving. Wonder Girls hasn't been doing well as a group lately. Yeah, they were quite starting to "not do good" even before, but their activities as a group now has really been halted. JYP even said that he isn't planning a Wonder Girls comeback. Although yeah, it wasn't only Sunye's marriage that affected the happenings with WG, but it was a factor. And who can say if that won't happen with Sungmin. Koreans tend to give their all when they're in love, and seeing how Sungmin kept on pushing through with the marriage, I can see that he really loves the girl. He will give her a lot of time, and might even give up his time for SuJu. He already shrugged off the SuJu members' opinions for her. I don't want to put dirt on anyone's name but that's just what I see.

I dunno, Sungmin's actions were kind of wreckless. A lot of people wil probably say "Sungmin did it for love". He did. He did. But love isn't the only thing in this world. Love won't feed your babies. Love won't stop people from bullying you. Yes, love is important, but so is honesty and acceptance. This is probably the reason why a lot of ELFs, especially K-ELFs, can't accept the marriage. Of course they want Sungmin to be happy, but I guess they feel betrayed and disappointed with Sungmin with how he did things. If he got married in a different way, I don't think he'll receive a bad response like this, nor am I gonna write this blog. But yeah. What happened already happened. Nothing can take it back.

Although I do congratulate Sungmin's wedding and I hope he'll be happy. His actions were just quite...erm. Saeun is also a bit... erm. Whatever~ Meh~