He doesn't understand..

Annyeong guysss! :D

I'm just here to rant a little. It's about this guy i know in college. :/

How do I start?

You know korean dramas? The typical ones always have this pattern right? There's the lead guy who is some douch and all crazy but he ends up with the girl. Then there's the guy who is a sweetheart and he's nice and really good to the girl, but he ends up being friendzoned.

Ok. 

This great friend of mine, he's really good and helpful, and he's always nice to me, cheers me up and all. I think he's a really good friend.

Problem is, he has a huge freaking obsession crush...

..on me. /sigh/

I don't see him that way, that's the problem. I just can't. I've tried, seriously. I went out on 'dates' with him and I tried seeing the 'lovey-dovey' side of him, but no. It doesn't get me. He confessed to me and I told him that we should just be friends. I feel bad, since he's such a good person. I finally understand the feelings of those girls in the dramas who keep friendzoning the nice guy. It's sad, but I can't help it. He's really not my type for a relationship.

But the bigger problem now is that he keeps trying to make me fall for him. I don't understand. Like, I clearly told him SO many times that I'm never going to see him as more than a friend, so why try? Stop trying. It's annoying everytime he does things for me. He acts like my boyfriend. Like what the hell? I am an independent girl who knows how to take care of myself. Stop doing things for me.

He buys me cookies and treats me for lunch sometimes. And he waits until late evening for me to finish my classes and waits with me until I go home from college. He scolds me everytime I skip meals and doesn't let me go places alone when it's late. He follows me everywhere I go and texts me non-stop everyday. He wishes me good morning and goodnight every single day. He calls me 'beautiful' and 'princess'.

Like what the hell? Did I ever say that you were allowed to interfere with my life like that? He's a friend. A F-R-I-E-N-D. /grunt/

I know it's sweet and all what he does. I mean, if I had a boyfriend, I'd definitely want him to do all that. But not this guy. NOT this guy. We can be friends, but not more. I just don't like it when he tells me what to do as if he's my boss or something. He does that sometimes. 

You what's the worst part? The effing worst part is that people in my college are starting to think that we are a couple now! Like OH MY GOD. He just ruined my love life.

If people think that he's my boyfriend, it decreases the chances of me getting a real boyfriend! I mean, other guys who think we're together wont bother asking me out. Get it? It gets me so mad cause I have a crush who probably thinks we're together. And if it wasn't for this guy, I could have gotten a date with my crush. T-T 

Why? Why is my love life so miserable? /goes to cry in the corner/

But as usual, I shall go on with life and find a way to make him give me more space. Haih.. Anyone, please give me some suggestions. Think of something I can do so that he stops stalking me and following me everywhere. But don't say 'talk to him'.

Talking to him doesn't work. I've tried explaining to him how i feel many times already. He just doesnt' understand. Maybe I need a certain phrase to say to him or do something meaner. Any suggestions? Please, I need help.. TToTT

 

 

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Arisa_Ameiru #1
First of all, I just want to comment about all the stuff he did for you... Oh my god. That was just so sweet. LIKE NO. AND YOUR LIFE IS LIKE A KDRAMA UNNI!!! You're the main character, Jandi, LOL. XD I'm not making fun of you but that's how I see it. XD
SECONDLY -- You need to tell the guy to just BACK OFF. Sometimes, they need harsh words to put them back on track.
You need to let him know that you /possibly/ like someone else and that's it's not fair for you.
If he REALLY loved you, he would try to understand and he would just support you. I mean, seriously...

Anyway, I wish you good luck, unni!!!
HWAITING!~
chiisanae
#2
Here is what you should do:
1. Tell your 'friend' again to back off with the creepy stuff.
Just tell him very literally 'Stop pretending to be with me. I don't want to be with you.'
If that so far is failing, explain him that you LIKE someone else.
And if that fails, threaten him with the end if your friendship.
If he would be your actual friend, he wouldn't have been so selfish tbh.
I personally always cut out friends who limit my joy in life.
Everyone is replacable really. Sounds harsh, but it is true.
2. Tell your crush that HE is the one for you. Better late than sorry forever.
You shouldn't just sit and wait, hoping for this all to naturally solve.
Because my gut feeling tells me it won't unless you take control of it.

Good luck!