Baekhyun is Dating Taeyeon, Not You (rant)

tl;dr — If you feel oh-so betrayed and disappointed and offended and insulted by Baekhyun and Taeyeon's relationship, so much so that you feel the need to call him names and hurt other people's feelings, then please kindly LEAVE THE FANDOM, for your sake and ours, and take your offended feelings with you, because no one needs your negativity and juvenile jealousy crap, and especially not Baekhyun nor Taeyeon. Just because you're offended doesn't mean you're right.

 

I have tried so hard not to write down my opinion about this because I don't think this is the type of thing that requires me to voice out my opinion, but seriously, guys? It's been like what, three or four days? And people are still talking about how betrayed they feel and how fake they think the relationship is and how they hope Baekhyun and Taeyeon break up soon, and all I can say is wow, how mature. Yeah, I know, everyone is allowed to feel however they want and say whatever they wanna say and deal with this in their own way. But when "fans" start calling Baekhyun a traitor on television broadcast, then you're no longer just "dealing with it you're own way". I don't want to be cliche and preach about how idols don't have to do anything we say and how they're human beings and can date whoever they want and it's not like they were gunna date you anyway, but apparently that stuff hasn't been pounded into some fans' heads yet. You have had three to four days to feel sappy and sad and betrayed, now get over it. Baekhyun is dating Taeyeon now, sorry, and if you're not mature enough to handle your "oppa" dating another girl (a girl that he really likes) and your coping method is to pick on the both of them and rail on and on about how deceptive he is, then I don't think you should be his fan. Baekhyun did nothing wrong. Maybe you think what they did was risky and misguided and you think he was sneaking around, but they did what they thought was necessary to keep their relationship going despite nasty, unsupportive fans who think they own them. Baekhyun doesn't even know you, ok? Neither does Taeyeon for that matter. And it makes me sick that she has to apologize on her Instagram for dating someone, Taeyeon is a grown- woman, okay? She can date whoever she wants, and you can hate all her all you want, but at the end of the day, she's dating your oppa, and you're not. Deal with it, and if you can't deal with it, then maybe you should find another fandom, one with less drama. It'll be much better for you to get away from the scandals and rumors, and Baekhyun will no longer have to deal with immature, juvenile fans who bring nothing to the table except negativity and trouble. Do you feel "hurt" by Baekhyun and Taeyeon's relationship? So much that you feel the need to hurt Baekhyun by calling him a traitor? Then I have a solution for you! Leave the fandom. It'll be better for all of us. God damn. I'm sorry. You feel betrayed because Taeyeon and Baekhyun went behind your backs instead of telling you the truth? Maybe it's because you're an immature kid and...

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daebakdeerlove
#1
FINALLY. THERE HASN'T BEEN ONE SINGLE FREAKING BLOG THAT SAID IT WITHOUT DUMMYING DOWN THE REALITY OF IT ALL. THANK YOU. UGH. You know, I honestly don't care at all who anybody dates in the KPop world (except I may get a little down if Luhan starts dating...) because it's nobody else's business anyway, and it's their decisions. The only thing I don't like is when ByunTae suddenly popped this news and how they did it. So much drama in this fandom and it's been barely over 2 years. What next?? >.< Moreover, the fans just aren't dealing with this the right way. Well, the fans are, but the fake ones aren't. That gif just says it all.
smolder
#2
Honestly, I don't give a flying fck who Baekhyun or Taeyeon dates. It's not my business. What really bothers me is how after their relationship was revealed, their fans got sick and tired of hiding all of their and revealed it. I read through the evidence presented and damn, they have ty attitudes.
And about how fans called Baekhyun a traitor - I wouldn't exactly support it but I can certainly understand where they're coming from.
-watermelon #3
Tbh, I don't hate their relationship - what I don't like is the way they handled it -_-
cheonsaya
#4
I totally agree with this. However, people have been saying that the fans aren't hurt by them dating, but the fact that they used Instagram and other social media to send secret messages to each other, and that can be misguided for fans because they have no idea that their true, alleged, intentions were to secretly send messages to each other. They may have taken it as the two rubbing in their secret relationship to their clueless fans because they didn't realize it until now and it's been a while since the "suspicious" posts started. But yeah, Taeyeon had to apologize for misleading the fans, and she totally didn't need to do that. She shouldn't be put through that just because she and Baekhyun like each other. I've also read that people thought that their behavior was inappropriate because of what else was going on at the time, such as Kris's lawsuit against SM, and they were saying how Baekhyun was just driving around with Taeyeon. What they failed to think about, though, was the possibility that Taeyeon was supporting him through the hard times. They have to think about how hard it is for them. They've been dating for reportedly four months, so it must've been really difficult for them. Although I agree with some people that they should focus on their careers, especially for EXO, because, despite their fame, they're still pretty new to the entertainment industry, Taeyeon and Baekhyun are entitled to living their own lives, and people have to respect that. There's no official rule saying they can't talk to each other and that they have to be addressing their fans on social media. I hope they learn to move on and just deal with it.
rachelhasnolife #5
Oh and I love how this a rant but still so sophisticatedly written, like if I was to rant I'd be like OMG THESE STUPID 12YR OLD FANS NEED TO LEAVE AND DIE WTFFFFF IS WRONG WITH YOU?!!?!?! :) lol
rachelhasnolife #6
Omg I was like ye this is so true and being all serious and stuff..and then I saw "you can't handle the truth" and I died LOL...but yes I totally agree with you, these immature fans need to grow up and face reality, because if they really were his fan and loved him, you wouldn't hurt someone you love...next minute we are gonna see like death threats and request to leave the group. Exo has worked too hard for this , they are innocent beings and it's really hard for me (as a non immature stupid gullible fan) to see them get hurt. Exo fighting!
reese0210 #7
Preachhhh! Well said!

I wish that these fans could just take a moment and step in his shoes. All he's ever done is work hard (as well as many other idols) only to be criticized and hurt by people who think they own him. He shouldn't have to go through the rest of his life strictly pleasing his fans desires and wants. He's not a freakin object.
Yesungs_Turtle
#8
Yes I agree with you. Preach it!
pompompoop #9
its sad how those immature fans are the ones near him.i hope baekhyun knows fans like us still exist.
Igotsmiles1
#10
In all honesty, I don't think most people are upset because they are dating...it's because of the other reasons that are way too long to put here.
byun-chan
#11
I can't even explain how much I agree with you on this. Idols are just like us fans; normal human beings who deserves to love and be loved. Do the fans really expect them to be single forever? I don't really think they understand the meaning of the word "betrayal" at all. How does dating and happiness result in betrayal!? some people really have to grow up and open their eyes for the reality of life. nothing last forever. I really do feel bad for not just baekhyun and taeyeon, but also all of the other artists and actors/actresses.
toshiohime
#12
WOW dont even get me started on the whole dating thing. Im oky with him dating her, but I think its fake at the same time. SM is just taking advantage of this to cover up his underage drinking. And stupid people leaving the fandom because of this . Like calm the down. But Baekhyun just fulfilled the " im gonna become famous and date my idol" dream. Give him props. And honestly EXO's career is going by pretty fast. I feel bad.and we all know how manipulating SM can be, so like im oky with them dating, really. Im glad, I want stars to date and not be scared the other person is gonna get hurt. But this was idk..it seemed fake...like I heard about baekhyun's underage drinking and barely anyone talked about. Why? Because they were too busy stressing about his dating taeyeon scandal. So in all I think its fake....
CynicalShowcase
#13
It's just like Zico said, "I like scandals, it shows who the true fans are."

I just don't get why everyone has to make a big fuss. People just get so wrapped up in this world (and I've seen it before firsthand) that they think they personally know every one of their biases. People are so delusion and mean and out of control, it's really upsetting to see people reduced to this...