I don't want to sound heartless but ....

Why do people play the 'feel sorry for me, my loved one passed away' card every time it's their turn to talk?

Their loved one passed away a long time ago ... well maybe not that long --> 2 - 3 years ago ... is that long ._. OTL
They keep talking about their loved one passing away when you've heard it multiple times.
When they scold you because you did something, they talk about how their loved one passed away.
When they ask you something and you answer, they always say "If my loved one was still here, he/she would be able to help me." You feel sad but as soon as they keep talking you're just like, "-_- Not this again."

 

I know someone who's like this and I feel sorry that her loved one passed away, but it gets ANNOYING when she talks about it and keeps saying that she's so sad and then she starts talking about her having to live alone now because she doesn't have any family.

 

._. I sound heartless now OTL

 

This ... girl/woman, she tells everyone about her loved one passing away and I feel like she WANTS people to feel sorry for her ... idk. I felt sorry for her when she told me the first 2 times but after that ... she just kept changing the words/story like she wanted me to keep feeling sorry for her.

It's just starting to get annoying at this point.
[I don't talk about my uncle's death 24/7
I don't talk about how my father doesn't want me 24/7
I guess I USED to talk about Lily 24/7, but that's stopped.]

Ugh,

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aznawzmao #1
I guess love does different things to us. Some people can't get over the fact a person they had counted on existing isn't there. Some people stop missing that exact person, but always feel incomplete.
IDK. I can see how after a while it's annoying, since redundancy is never attractive :P
ValerieS #2
Ok some Dutch honesty from me. She is clearly abusing this to get more attention. I personally resent that. My uncle died of cancer a year ago, so what? I'm not gonna sit there and feel sorry for myself and make myself look pathetic in front of others. I moved on. And me being as blunt as i am would say to that person:"Well now she/he ain't here anymore is he/she? Wake up and smell the coffee because the world ain't revolving on you!" In my opinion. You are not heartless. She or he is stuck and needs a wake up call
multi-ulti-23 #3
The very sole reason why I never want to mention/talk about my deceased loved one... I mean, in a way I worry that people feel pressured to feel pity and sorry. I don't want that... Of course, a very close family member of mine did just pass away, but I don't want it to be something so solemn. It shouldn't be something to celebrate about either, but whatever it is I just don't talk about. It gets awkward when all they expect is for you to cry the next minute... :/
ohmygoshwhy #4
Lol Idk. Maybe she's just lonely?
bubblemallows #5
It depends too.
Some deaths are different from other deaths.
Some people are different from other people.
You won't get why they talk about it if you didn't experience the death their loved ones went through and how they had to wake up each day trying to remember that that person is gone from their lives forever. So I don't think of it as annoying because I've been through many the many deaths of my loved ones like my father, my uncle and my aunt and I know the feeling of having to want a small memory of your loved ones no matter what the cost would be. We should just understand one another because one of the most painful things is losing someone. I'm not saying you're heartless, I'm saying you should just try to understand them. You will never know how simple words can help them get through it. Years will never heal the lost of someone, it just makes them accept it little by little.
_sESTINA_NNE #6
ikr. I mean its okay if it for once or twice but more than that, it gets annoying. Everyone had/would lose their love one. It's as if you're the only who suffered. Move on
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