I usually try to stay away from the topic, I usually do this because I've come to realized is really hard to reach a mature level conversation with certain k-pop fans, not because they are actually immature but because they decide to act like that when it comes to certain things.

My intention is not to offend anyone is just to make a point of how things are developing and my thoughts about the double face I've get to face (sorry the irony of the redundance of this sentence) when it comes to Kpop in general, not only at the SNSD part.

But this is going to far and it just makes me want to just stop even care because is too exhausting to read and see all this persons acting like real jerks to each other, and even when I'm refering to SNSD news this happens in all boy/girlbands, and I believe I need to put my thoughts in a couple of subjects because I'm afraid of the effect they way some kids are replying to some asks or the way some people are expressing.

Starting with this:

"Stop please, we all knew this was a delusional OTP, like come on, do you really thought they would be creepy and disgusting lesbians?"

First of all, as humans we tend to attach feelings to certaing fictional characters or worlds, some kids are having a rough time and their way to overcome things are actually invest themselves in books, in series, in movies, in music. NO ONE has the right to tell other person that they are stupid or that they are just annoying because they had invest themselves in something, but we do need to understand that there are limits when this investment involves other humans.

I live by the motto that "I'm allowed to do what I want as long I don't hurt others and as long as I'm faithful to who I am" and I mean hurt them in a physical and emotionally way, but taking in consideration that sometimes "hurting" other people by being yourself is necessary sometimes.

I've seen some people saying that they shouldn't go and post things on Taeyeon's IG and I actually believe people shouldn't, because yes Taeyeon has indeed say things that indicate she has depression and this could trigger anxiety on her, but telling kids they shouldn't post on Taeyeon's IG and that it would be better if they cut themselves, if they depressed on their rooms alone and just leave this fandom is really ridicuolous and extremely hypocritical, you are trying to deffend someone by telling others to hurt themselves?

And please don't go with the excuse "I didn't really mean it" because there are peope, who just need one word to actually do things like hurting each other.

Then we have the second part of the sentence that really irritates me, saying that how they would be "disgusting" or "creepy" lesbians...

This is the subject I come to find it hard to talk about when it comes to certain fans, because they can't see more beyond "the culture", "the religion" or just how the wordl tries to push down a heteronormative reality down your throat all the time.

No matter what culture or religion or place do you live, this has nothing to do with the fact that you can be gay.

Being gay doesn't defined someone, is part of someone. And then we go to the fact that we don't even know if they are gay, they could be biual, they could be panual, aual or they could be straight with a homoromantic orientation, and yes romantic orientation and ual orientation are 2 different things.

Being gay/lesbian doesn't make a person less than other, it doesn't make them creepy or disgusting or mean or bad persons, they are just humans beings that feel atraction to other same /gender people, and what it bothers me more is the fact that every time I've seen something related to this kind of "thoughts" is coming from someone who reads fanfics about male idols banging each other and having meaningless , because dear lord forbit they could actually represent a normal relationship.

The only reason why I could stop being part of aything related to k-pop and fanfiction could be that is exhausting to try to leave all this things away, because is so much easier to rejoyce when someone else is suffering, is easier to be mean and rude, and because is just better to keep making other people miserable.

Right now the "Taeny" tag at tumblr is full with mean comments, people trying to convey their feelings and just more mean comments and replies about how some peope, feel so good to see how the locksmiths ship sank "because they were so fricking annoying".

I know some locksmiths were rude and jerks too, but why instead of acting like those fans we actually try to be better than them?

But no...let us be like the same person we have complained in the past, that's completely logic.

If all SNSD are reveal to be dating good for them, be happy for them, I know it could be hurtful and you have your right to feel what you are feeling and is okay to express how you feel, maybe is not as a good idea to expressed to the people involved in general because it could make them stress out. 

Just because they can't be a couple, or maybe they never were one, who knows?, it means you have to stop shipping them, they are best friends and they will always be best friends. Fraternal love is good too.

I don't know if I actually explain what I want but I hope you, who ever is reading this, understand that we need to be more congruent with how we act, we need to be kind to each other and let know I'm not saying you can't express what you feel because what I'm saying is that you need to be careful or how you express yourself, and also we need to realize the world has never been entirely "STRAIGHT", uality is fluid and just because yours doesn't seem to apply to this fuidity doesn't mean is not real, this tiny piece of the puzzle of a human being (ual orientation/romantic orientation) doesn't define them.

I can't talk for others but I will continue BTS until is finished and maybe I will still keep writting about them, who knows, because after all I write fiction, I portray indeed their image but the characters I used are something I develop in the story, they had nothing to do with their personal life.

If this post somehow hurt you or offend you I'm willing to talk about it, but I MEAN TALK I won't be involved in a fight about black and white and how I'm pushing the lgbtqia+ world to people, you have all the right to not read this or my posts at tumblr, you can unsuscribe, you can even block me if you want, just like I will stop tracking the "taeny" tag until all the mean and rude and awful posts stop and if they don't then I won't just see the tag.

PLEASE...CAN WE BE KIND JUST FOR ONE TIME AND STOP THIS NONSENSE OF BEING JERKS TO EACH OTHER IN ALL THE FANDOMS, NOT ONLY IN THE KPOP ONE?

Is that really too much to ask?...