[SPECIAL MESSAGE]

A message from me to a sasaeng fan:

“This is my message to you. Please take a few minutes and give me a chance. We don’t know each other, but we share a feeling that has always kept this world on track: love.

We both love our idol, yet each one of us gives a different meaning to the word. While I pray everyday for him so that he will always shine the way he does and keep his faith, you try to show your love through ways you believe are right, but actually aren’t.

People call you sasaeng fan.. I don’t.. Because I have no right to put a stigma on someone without even knowing his/her true self. I haven’t got the right to judge you, because I know that I am not a good person either.

But there is one thing that I can do. It is my duty as human. I can try to make you understand how your behaviour can change so many things..

I don’t know what is in your heart, what makes you happy, what discourages you in life.. But I know that you unconsciously make your idol feel the same, although you try to get closer to him so that you can form a pure bond.

You don’t realise how your acts can ruin his self esteem, shake his confidence or worse, hurt him physically. You do not see his heart, so how can you know how’s he feeling whenever he witnesses your behaviour?

You follow him everywhere, take pictures, try to touch him, hurt the other members or his dear ones, frustrated because you can’t be with him.. Have you thought, what will it be like to see the ones you love being harmed,harassed, scared to get out, sad, crying? What if that will happen to you? Did you ever thought that you have no right on your idol’s life?

You don’t really think about that right now, so you keep on doing your thing.. And in all this time, you can’t figure it out that you’re actually ruining perhaps one of the most beautiful moments of your life, the one when you’re young, full of hope and vivacious.

Doing all this stops you from realising that you are changing slowly, putting a mask on your inner self, hiding it in a shameless shield. Little by little, you will become a person who doesn’t know anymore the meaning of humankind, respect, morality, trustworthiness, loyalty, true love.

You slowly forget who you really are, you forget your dreams, you forget that you also have a life and that life is not going to wait for you to wake up. It will go on and one day you will find yourself in a place you never wanted to be: stuck in the dreadful web of guiltiness.

And all this for what? For trying to get some love and attention from your idol? You will not. Because there will only be hatred and fear to welcome you whenever you’ll be around him. And he is not the only one who will turn against you.

Have you ever thought about your parents? About how much they fight everyday to help you face this world? Think about how will they feel if your behaviour will turn out to be the reason for which people will disrespect your family. Think about their honour. They gave you life, they gave you everything, sometimes giving up their own dreams so that you can live yours. And how are you repay them for all that love and caring? Bringing sorrow in their lives, worriness, a bad name?

You might get involved in an incident. Think how your parents will react, knowing that their child has come to this state, in which he/she has lost any sense of self esteem and morality. Think how can one of your actions hurt your parents. What will they do, when seeing you like that or worse, not seeing you anymore because of an accident that can easily happen because of your unconsciousness? You have no right to hurt them in such way.

You might now tell me that in your case, your parents don’t give a damn about your life. I understand that, because sometimes parents are not how we will like them to be. They might not support you or your dream, so you try to embrace a new world, which you think will help you to go on… it won’t… And even if your parents aren’t there for you, that doesn’t justify how you behave.. You should try and show a better image of yourself.. That might change your parents as well..

You probably will say that you don’t have a family.. You have no one there to care for you.. I will then say you are forgetting something very important.. There’s someone out there who has always been near you, loving and protecting you: God. He has never let go of you and never will.

You might say that He has also forgot about you.. That’s not true.. Because thanks to Him you get to see the sunshine, you feel the breeze, you love, you laugh, you cry, you live.. and now you have someone to wipe away your sadness, to bring a smile on your face and inspire you everyday: your idol.

And how do you thank God for all He has done to you? You hurt one of His children, thinking that you are actually supporting him, loving him.. You’re not.. And you’re blaming God and everyone for what is happening in your life. You keep on acting like that as a way to show your anger. But you don’t understand that you are the one who makes the others step away and leave you behind.

You will probably grow up someday, form a family and get on with your life, forgetting about the one who once was more important then yourself: your idol.

You don’t realise it now, but later you will feel the need to make a change, to move on. But what if it will be too late? What if your behaviour nowadays will affect you in the future?

Imagine that you get involved in a bad situation while chasing your idol. People will find out and, believe me, they won’t easily forget you. Someday you might have a chance to shine, but you’ll end up being ignored because of what you have done in the past. You might hurt your family then by behaving like this now.

Think about your life partner. How will he/she feel when finding out that you’ve once caused an incident? Think how your kids will feel when others will bully them, because their parent is everywhere in the media, a hero/heroine of an embarrassing incident that has once created a fuss.

You might laugh now, when reading this, but you will remember my words then. You’ll end up hating yourself for acting so blindly all this time. Your heart will be imprisoned in the cold, painful branches of your consciousness. You will feel sorry and will try to change things..

But you won’t be able, because all those moments will forever remain stuck in the past, never to fade away, but always there to torture you. It has happened to me.. you can’t imagine how hard it is and I don’t want you to find out.

Will you be able to bear all this? Will you be able to keep on, knowing that you have hurt so many people all this time? Maybe, if there is nothing there inside you to make you realise..

You might continue to do everything to win your stigma of a sasaeng fan, to win your idol’s hate, to win the hate and disrespect of thousands of people out there who truly support the artists. You might continue, if you don’t tear down that lifeless wall that has captured your kind nature, stopping you from being a true human.

But I believe you can change. I believe in you and I pray that you will realise that this is not the way to get closer to your idol and show him your so called support.

So please, take a few moments, close your eyes and ask yourself: Why are you doing this? Because you love your idol? Is this the real you? Is this what you’ve always wanted to do? Is this going to help you win the battle against the cruel destiny? Is this what you call being a human?

If the answer to all this is ‘yes’, then I am sorry for wasting your time. I wish you good health and hope that you’ll be happy in life and never have to face the results of your behaviour.

But if the answer is ‘no’, then try to give up doing all those bad things. If you are near your idol, go to him, tell him how much you love him and that you’ll always support his dream and ask him to pray for you so that the sun will embrace your life with its warm light as well.

You will then see how these simple words will make a huge difference. The smile on your idol’s face will reflect the love and respect to you. He’ll be encouraged to continue to work hard and perform for you, for your happiness.

You will feel peaceful and realise how things will slowly get better. You will not only make your idol happy, but you will make your parents feel proud. You will make God be proud. And He will give your brighter days in return. You will see a change.

There’s still time to do something. You can do it. And if you feel it’s too hard and you can’t, don’t worry. I’ll pray so that you’ll understand and succeed in becoming a better person. I’ll be there for you! All the fans will!

I am waiting with open arms, to welcome you into a whole new world, full of joy, togetherness, love: a true, pure, innocent, strong, loyal fandom! Welcome!

This is my message to you. I hope you will take a few minutes and reflect on what I’ve written to you. We don’t know each other, but I’ll forever be your friend. One change and you will see how many people out there will turn to you, to hug you and encourage you to fight for your dreams!

You will then realise what a true fandom is like! You will make your idol be proud of you! You will be happy, seeing all these people sharing the same interest as you!

This is my message to you. I hope you’ll understand. I am waiting for you, my friend!

Thank you!”