What Do You Do When Someone Avoids You?

Someone's been avoiding me, and I don't know what to do. Like, I ask that person how she's been, if she'd been fine, doing good, but she just doesn't reply to my messages, but instead, she just says, "It's good," but that rarely happens; she usually doesn't reply. We used to be so close, and now she's like all emo-ish, and so distant, and I don't even know what's going on with her life and all, since she doesn't tell me. I send her more than 10 messages, which are all very long, but she's like, "lool," "really? That's good," "hahaha," "ttyl," or "I'm busy right now, so I can't talk, bye." Like, what do you want me to do?!?! ;^; and what hurts more is that when I message her like, five times, or less, it says that she's online, but she doesn't reply, so three minutes later, she goes offline and that's when I think that she's avoiding me...Okay, I just miss her so much; we've been close ever since, but I guess she's like, all 'whatever' already. I need help, so...any advices? :(

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MissGlitterBox
#1
Give her some space. Really! You won't believe how much a few months of no contact will do to your friendship. If you were really close, then the closeness won't go away. Instead, if she really cares about you, she'll miss you. If she won't miss you, then she doesn't really care, and she doesn't deserve you. I know it hurts, but sometimes we have to accept that the other person doesn't want us anymore. :( It's sad, but it makes you stronger, believe me. Oh btw, are you a guy or a girl?
Midnight-B2UTY
#2
Oh gosh, I hate it when you leave these long- messages that take forever to type, but then the person only replies with "lol" or "that ." Like, seriously? /face-palm/
But maybe your friend is having issues with her personal life? Issues she doesn't want to share? Just try giving her some space, or just ask her what's up.
Usually, when people ignore me, I don't really give a and I'll just ignore them back (unless I know they have a plausible reason to be pissed at me).
tany1234
#3
give her some space so she can think and see how it goes, she will eventually talk to you again :)
Neko-Meow
#4
Although this is for couple but who cares,
"If yu love somebody,let her go,if she loves you back,she will come back"

so it's the same matter. if she loves you [friend,of course] she will become close to you again.

Maybe she has family problems or something that she is afraid to talk about? I'm like that too. I don't like telling someone that I can't trust so I tell it to my teddy bear or maybe here xDD but yeah,give her some space first then,try and talk to her and assure her that she can trust you!
LokiCraze123
#5
Ahh. Well, I give that person space and if she truly misses you, then she'll come back. Plus, once ypu find that one message from someone after so long, you just can't help but feel elated XD
CatFap
#6
Tht happened to me as well, that's basically how I lost my bestfriend. Life's like that, and I realised I should stop walking the ocean for people that won't jump a puddle for me.
She ignored me on my brthday, and it's already in my nature not to care too much or show too much feelings, so I held it in and moved on :)
inspiritkissmeemily
#7
bleh. i hate it when stuff like that happens. maybe shes like slowly drifting away for some reason? i kinda did that when i got into kpop and ppl started talking to me less. or maybe something bad happened to her and she just needs some space. or just confront her with it. if anything, if she has an fb and u do too, just do a bit of stalking. no biggie~ good luck with ur friend htough! maybe she met new ppl. bleh.
GRANDJIMIN
#8
This is very common between friends. Countless of times this has happened to me. Usually, if you really do care for that person, then you should really try to find out how she's been/why she's acting this way/why she's avoiding you. But obviously, you're trying to. If she doesn't want to budge or tell you what's going on, then you, as her friend, should respect that. If she doesn't want to be bothered or doesn't want to talk to you, then it's best to leave it at that. If she comes back, then that's when you know she's truly your friend. I know it's hard to just sit there and witness all of that, but I, too, have learned that no one is ever really there for you forever. Friends come and go. You have the choice whether to stick around with her or not, but to me, seems like she made the choice to leave. I know it's hard, like you feel like you're being pushed away. But don't worry, like I said, if she's truly your friend, she'll come back to you and she wouldn't avoid you like that. I've learned that the hard way, hence why I tend to brush people off SOMETIMES knowing that there's just me in the end. Cheer up, just talk to her every now and then, don't bombard or overwhelm her with messages. She could be going through something personal and is feeling a little down. So give it some time, love~
I hope everything works out. Good luck, and smile!!! <3
BlackPearl96 #9
you can ask her straight out "why have you been avoiding me" but sometimes people are only meant to be with us in seasons, her season may have just ended and at no fault of your own.in all honesty that just the way girls are, youll be talking one minute and she wont even look at you the next, it a part of life. and if she doesn't come around you may miss her now and for short and random times in the future but for the most part at some point she wont even be of concern to you
TheChuglyOne
#10
I'm the type to do what your friend does. Usually I need space and I'm basically sick of talking to the person. They haven't done anything wrong, but I'm just sick of talking to them.
Leave her be for a while. I'm sure you mean well, but if the person whom I'm avoiding bombards me with messages, I will get annoyed with them.
Just leave her alone for a while and everything will work out :)
Escritoire
#11
Maybe she just needs space. She has a personal life just like everyone else, so maybe she doesn't have time to reply to everything. Moreover, maybe something has changed. It's possible that she's looking into new things, and new people.
yoaisummer #12
Hello.nice to meet u.I c u got problem so I jz 1 2 day it.
There 2 reason y she act like that.
1st,mayb she busy in study or work,that y she act like that.like don't hv any free to talk or chat.
2nd,mayb she found a new friend or she move on with another person.it like we find someone that can get along easily,they will start change their heart also.
If I were u,she act like that,I won't bother them anymore.it nt worth anymore if she really treat u like that.
The reason y I tel u tis,it becos that wat my ex-bff treat me.I hope u won't offensive wat I say.And thank you 4 read my comment.