I'm sorry for always bothering you with my feelings & questions, but...
Could you please give me tips ?
So here's the story:
My (ex) guy bestfriend & I are (..were) friends for 3-4 years.
He messed with me 2 times...while he had a girlfriend he always (it happened 2 times) blocked me on facebook, ignored me & things like this.
The 2nd time was this year...I think 2 months ago & he promised me to never do that again. and if he does it again, I could ignore him as much as I want, I could end our friendship & things like this.
And now it happened again. Actually because he was in the hospital (he got operated~) for more than 2 weeks I wanted to visit him. He said I could visit him on tuesday (at that time) & I said okay. So in the evening I asked him once again if it's still okay to visit him there or if his family or someone is coming over. He told me it wouldn't work because they would come...but 1 week after our conversation I found out (through a girl friend of us) that his girlfriend visited him on this day. I was like "wtf ?! Why did he lie to me ? I mean he could say the thruth..that his girlfriend is coming over. It would be okay for me not to go, he didn't have to lie to me." ..so I ignored it & didn't talk with him about it. Now...2 weeks later our other gil friend told me that he sent 3 of our friends a sms where he said that he wants to cancel the contact with them (sorry for my bad english) & he even blocked them. I was like astounished bcuase his own girlfriend provided an ultimaum & this idiot choosed her insted of all his best-girl-friends -.- !!
After I got home I instantly checked my phone, whatsapp and facebook. So I found out that he blocked me on Whatsapp & Facebook.
Now that I'm watchin Monstar ep7 where Kang HaNeul & Da Hee are singing together I'm like *sobs*sobs*
What should I do now ? At first I was like you're not worth any tears but now in these 2 days I feel completely feel empty & depressed :/ ...Do you know hwat I mean !?
I don't really understand..Did his girlfriend make him block you guys and etc, or did he simply choose to ignore you ?
Because if he choose to ignore you then my friend he's not worth it...But I think it has something to do with your feelings as well...Do you like him ?
Because if you do...stop this instant, boys like that know nothing than to play with a girl's heart..
And if he's clueless about your feelings, then he's simply a jerk...
He chose a girlfriend he's most probably gonna break up with over his friends...I would slap him if I was you...
So you're upset because his girlfriend visited him and he doesn't want to be friends with you?Sounds like jealousy.I'm sorry but I don't understand this..your english doesn't make sense.
Hes not worth it, in my opinion, especially if you gave him more than one or two chances and he screwed up each time. He clearly needs to get his priorities straight. I think you should have a straightforward conversation with him and tell him straight up that if he's going to pick his girlfriend over his best friends, then you don't want to be his number two all the time. Tell him how you feel about it too, it's better than just ignoring him or trying to have him figure it out on his own. But I really think he's a bad friend for being like that and you shouldn't let him waste your time and hurt your feelings.
I hope everything turns out okay, please talk to me if you ever need someone! <3
Fist of: He's a f****** stupid guy.
I don't know why people (mostly guys) cut their relationships with their girl friends, when they have a girlfriend. I mean, what's the point of it? In my point of view (since I'm quite jealous) boys need to be a bit carefull with that, BUT they don't need to end their friendships with girls they have as friends. I myself, like to have boys as friends so, I also wouldn't like if I needed to cut any of those relationships.
If he did that then it just proves that they don't mean anything to him. If he did that, it's because he doesn't care about your friendship as you care about it. So, if it's not balanced and the other doesn't want it, I guess it's not worth a try.
People need to be sure about the things they're doing, specially when it comes to problems about life and stuff. I don't know what you're planning to do, but if it was me, I would forget it (but again, this is just me, a person who may or may not know how to chose her friends.)
Sweetheart, I just hope you get over this well. :) Chu~ Lots of luck and love for you. <3
Ahhh don't cry. Honestly I can tell you really care for him. But if I were you I wouldn't consider him as a BEST friend. Since he is in the hospital, you must be worried right? Maybe you should wait until he's better and then talk to him. He does have his girlfriend and his family to take care of him. Hopefully the time away will help him realize how much he misses you as a best friend. Or... cut all contacts. He does sound kind of a douchebag not needing his friend. Well if he says he doesn't need friends well so be it. Most people I know who have girlfriends or boyfriends see their friends as a last resort when they are feeling lonely.
Hope this helped you somewhat. I dunno.
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