Something that bugs me

When someone tells me I use the word "Oppa" too much in my stories, I kind of really get annoyed, like REALLY annoyed. Personally, I've NEVER called anyone who was my senior by their name, unless I was refering to them like "Heesuk Oppa" or "RJ Jiejie." (This is in Asia. Obviously, I use people's names here in the USA.) I don't answer to "Katy" from my siblings. If they call me Katy, I just ignore them until they call me by what they're supposed to call me. Simple as that. 

And from what I've seen, most Chinese and Korean people do the same. Like I've NEVER heard my Korean friends address their older siblings by their names when they were speaking in Korean. It's always "Oppa" or "Unnie." Or, at most "Seokwon Oppa" if there are multiple "Oppas" in the room (personally, I kind of just refered to "Seokwon Oppa" as "" but Kris, my friend, can't really call her brother's best friend "" so she stuck with "Seokwon Oppa" when she wanted to address him. I'm not sure about Japan... but I think it's similar...

 

But yeah...It's so weird for me an Asian by their names if they're older than me... I have no problem with younger people because you just call them their names.

 

Does anyone else have similar problems? Asians, wanna back me up or tell me I'm too oldschool? xD

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-expectation #1
you're not Asian?
I all my siblings with their real name (:
I guess, that makes us closer? :D
Dropping formalities and all XD
c:
MK_HenryLau #2
Haha!! I don't really have a problem with you saying Oppa in your fanfics.... It's honorifics so you have to use them to be respectful right? XD
SuperJuniorSBaby #3
Not really. But personallu i think its cute calling someone oppa ! <3 ♥
asroar #4
omf it is so true
even in the middle eastren areas

except for me sobs
i never call my siblings with formalities even though two of them are almost finished with university, and one with college
but i do address other people which i'm not that familiar with as 'unni' and 'oppa' and stuff, like cousins or seniors a grade higher or something
fy1004 #5
My gosh I feel you...sometimes I don't even remember my brother's name because you get smacked around in mah house. LOL jk but it's considered really disrespectful if you call someone's name if you aren't that close to them.
Kpopobsessed626 #6
Haha that's true. I'm Chinese and yea it applies. I've never heard Koreans call their older siblings by their names so I get what you mean. It would feel SUPER awkward if they did.
junyoshi #7
I have to call my sis Jie. And not even say her name in front of her. She would give me the look of contempt. But with seniors in sch, I call them by their names. And while working, I call ppl that are actually old enough to be my parents their names as well. ^^
hikio-chan #8
I think that if it is a part of your culture and you always used it, there is nothing wrong with it. What is annoying is white people acting this way with other white people only to imitate (I wouldn't really let someone call me unnie and I never called someone older oppa or unnie in the streets). It is not a part of my culture to distinguish the elder or younger person when you talk to them. It's probably for that that you had complains, because some forgets this is the Internet, you have people with other cultures than yourself even if they talk the same langage.
JuicyHeart #9
It's true :) I'm half Japanese, and well, although I'm more Americanized, in my culture, you never drop honorifics. Sister is always Onee-chan, brother is Onii-san. And with adults, "san" is always used unless you become close, then it's "kun" or "chan" at the end of the name ._. So yeah. If you dropped the "oppa" it'd be culturally incorrect
xXsueweetieXx #10
I'm part Vietnamese. Between my sister and I I'm the odlest, but she doesn't call me "chi" (older sis) and I don't call her "em" (younger person?) I think it's because we were born and raised in Australia... But when we greet our older relatives, we have to say it in Viet. But cousins and stuff, I just call them by their name (:
MoonSungRa #11
In Japan they use: -san, -kun, nii-san, onee-san...

I really can't understand all those honorifics. I mean I can't imagine myself calling my older sister (12 yo older than me) by unnie, or whatever. I actually use a cute nickname to call her with, or simply; "hey you".

Am I that rude and impolite? >_<
BigbangloverQQYi #12
Yep. I'm the oldest in my family and if my siblings call my name, i won't reply them too :) but i call my seniors who are older than me by 2-3 years their names :)
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