Why is this the way things are?

Why can't people just be themselves? I know this question is asked a lot, but even I want to know (I am tired of it).

Why do people feel the need to feign an image? Why do we need to put on a show and act how people want us to act instead of acting how we feel?

I'm not saying everyone does it, because I don't like to, but I'm not saying we all haven't before.

What compels people to want someone to be a certain way? Is it because we lack certain things and we seek that from others? Or is it just because that's what we expect? But why do we expect it in the first place? Could it be that we assume that because we are a certain way, everyone else will be too?

Since I know I'm the type of person who is patient, I automatically assume others will be the same way, and I get upset with them when they are impatient. But because that's their nature, it does not offend me seriously. Still, I tell them to be more patient because I think it would be easier to deal with them. It's as if I'm telling them to change just so I can feel better.

What makes us want to do that to a person? Maybe because we think if we are who we are, or are our natural selves, people may not treat us the same or even not like us.

Me for example, I'm nice, yet I have a short fuse and I don't like people. But I can still communicate with people because I don't mind them. I'm also a little suicidal or pro-self, because I don't know how to manage my feelings properly and I'm a bottler. But I go about everyday, covering it up like it's nobody's business.

I'm pretty honest about it when it comes up, but I don't go around telling everybody I've been a violent, angry, and emotionally unstable child since about age 6 or earlier because I afraid that it will get me even more socially outcasted than I already am.

These past few years, I've been more of myself, but I find that I'm not liked by the majority and I have to go out of my way to please my peers by faking it just to get by in high school. I don't like it, but it's the only way I feel safe there.

What I think I'm trying to say is, why do we want to change people, and why do they want to change us? Why can't I be me? Is this just the way we are?

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suibian #1 Dec 31, 2012 00:46:38

In truth I've only two frnds & I dont interact with others cuz they want me to be like them or hope so.....

darklilwolf #2 Dec 30, 2012 19:54:54

I guess that's how we humans are. We see a vision of the world and when one piece doesn't fit in our perfect world we try to change that or reject it. I have done this but lately I try not to because I don't like it when people try to change me...also this is my theory, I could be way off of human behavior.

maya5ty #3 Dec 30, 2012 13:35:36

3 Things
1) Almost everyone in society wasn't to fit in. They think if they act different others will like them. When we were kids our minds were very strong. We didn't think about what others thought. We just wanted to be ourselves and play with toys.
2) I have also made the choice to change myself. I wanted others to like me, but found out that it wasn't worth it. I was lying to myself and I just couldn't anymore. So now I'm just me.
3) You shouldn't have to change for anyone. If they don't like you for who you are they forget them. You seen like a wonderful person and if they can't see that punch them. Seriously punch them in the face and go get some ice cream. XD

Kironstree #4 Dec 30, 2012 11:38:33

I understand perfectly. >.< it's better to be yourself than to forget who you are. But I'm used to being alone so if people don't like who I am it doesn't bother me that much

kyuchang #5 Dec 30, 2012 11:17:06

just be who u r my dear..if people cant accept it...then y should we change for them..its not worth it...

bioward #6 Dec 30, 2012 10:43:34

The human race is -e-d up as s-h-i-t. We should just follow the example of potatoes and get along with each other. Potatoes are all friends, we should be like potatoes too.