"Dude,you should come...they'll have alcohol!"
So this is one way of bribing the youth today into coming to a party. Im not talking just about Pakistan,but this is pretty common all over the world. Im not expressing my religious views on this matter because these days it doesnt really matter which religion youre from. Having alot of foreign friends, I get this alot "But..dont muslims not drink?" Its hilarious really. Well ofcourse they drink. You throw a vodka bottle at a gang of teenage boys and they'll slurp it up like water. Am I against drinking? No. Everyone makes choices. Mine is to not torture my liver by drinking something that tastes like human excrements. It really has nothing to do with being Islamic.

What Im curious about is whether people really believe that alcohol is a must at parties? Ive received invitations to quite a few. Most believe that it 'puts you in the mood'. Perhaps for some thats how it works. But you could be sleep-deprived or high on chocolate to be in the mood. Or just generally happy?
It isnt just alcohol,but drugs too. Ive actually come across a place that sells drugs. I believe its called "Psyche Delics". Really obvious name. I dont really know what goes on at these parties but I have a good idea of why men prefer to go to them. I mean,who wouldnt want a girl drunk out of her mind rubbing against their crotches and making out with anything that moves? I find it hilarious because Ive met a few girls like this and they have this aura around them that generates an automatic eye-roll from you. To put it in words,theyre of the impression that because they drink,they're 'cool' and guys 'want them'. Well yes,why would a guy pass up the opportunity to be with a woman with no self-respect? Again,its not about being religious. It has more to do with being a woman of substance. Would you really choose to reduce yourself to such a pathetic level where you would resort to alcohol to get attention?
What happened to the days when it was intellect over uality? Or I guess they never existed in the first place.

Peer pressure has alot to do with whether one decides to indulge in drinking or not. If you dont drink youre automatically labelled as a 'goody two shoes' or just not fun. In order to fit in,it has become necessary to toss aside your morals and do what everyone else is doing.
"Yaar,uss party mein tou crazy scene tha!"[Man,that party was crazy] While sitting in college,Ive heard this line alot. Ive literally seen 18 year old boys who come to college completely drunk and their friends hog around them like theyve won a gold medal at the Olympics. Has being immoral become a norm of our society? Is being a good person now too 'up-tight'?

In a country like South Korea,drinking is a must. If you dont,youre considered unsociable. It is respectful to pour a drink for your senior and accept the first round poured for you because if you dont,well..youre in trouble of being a social outcast. At first when I heard of this,I was pretty shook up because I dont drink and I have no desire to. I thought about it for days before it hit me,my morals are more important and people will just have to respect that. If someone offers me a drink I just politely say that its not lady-like. Ive been with people who drink infront of me,girls who smoke infront of me and girls who speak so highly of their drunken escapades. Im sorry,thats really nothing to be happy about.
We live in a time where female empowerment is supposed to be the 'in thing',feminism all the way. But really,what is feminism? When you hear the word 'feminine',does a drunken half- woman come to mind? Ive been raised according to the morals a respectful lady is supposed to have...so I dont have the mannerisms of a tramp. I sit properly with one leg behind the other,I walk gracefully and I get uncomfortable when a guy tries to hug me or be excessively touchy. Yes,often times Im told that Im up-tight and snobby and I need to 'chill'. However,if 'chilling' requires me to wear short dresses,flaunt around my undies and toss myself at a random stranger...I'd rather be a snob.

In conclusion,I believe alcohol has been morphed into a necessity by the upper-class. Its become a requirement in order to fit in and declining means you dont know how to have fun. I really hope our society can come out of this strange dilemma and realize that good conversation and meaningful friendships can be developed over a cup of coffee rather than a jug of beer.