Could you help me with some advice? Pretty pleaseee

So I have this friend in my class in college and she is double majoring. Let's call her Meri.  Long story short, she can't attend classes on two days from 8 to 10. She talked about it with the head of the department and got a note that allowed her to attend to class after 10 am. So far everything has been good but today we had a new lecturer and like always my friend came late and when the teacher asked, she tried to explain but the teacher didn't accept her explanation. He didn't even read her note and said he will deduct point from her (lots of points! Not even the amount that is normally deducted for being late!) And then he proceed to make fun of her the whole class saying stuff like "John explain the subject we covered today to Meri since she is sooo enthusiastic and is studying two majors and can't show up to class" or ask her to come up front and answer questions and obviously she wasn't prepared cause she had a test in her second major in the morning. Stuff like that 

So now my friend is so super sad and she thinks everyone in class is mocking her. I don't know what to do? How can I help her cheer up? I tried to comfort her by telling her that what happened dosent matter but she doesn't accept what I say!

Then I thought about taking her out for lunch or something but as embarrassing as it is I don't have the money for it right now and she is super busy and always on a diet so that's out of the picture too. I'm so confused. What should I do? 

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tumbleweed #1
Report that professor to the dean or whoever is in charge of the school. As for with your friend, definitely shower them with love because they do not deserve to have their feelings invalidated! It being mocked, the best you can probably do is just be there for them and slowly help them overcome this traumatic experience by standing up for them and just making an effort to talk to them when they are comfortable. Good luck!
imjaebeoms #2
i really admire your friend for taking up two majors because that's not easy! She has the dedication and motivation to go for both of them so that's very admirable.

I think the best way to go through this is to continue supporting your friend, giving her strength when she needs it. Maybe it's best to send in a complaint about the lecturer because at the very least, he should have read the note instead of mocking her and making her feel bad. Lecturers are suppose to support and guide you, not degrade you!

I hope you're friend is going to feel alright and not let this bitter experience bother her! All the best towards both you and your friend :)
Hayagi #3
Mocking a student for having two majors.. wow...
I understand that your friend feels bad but it sounds like that new teacher was just very unreasonable. Isn't there a place where students can complain about this kind of stuff? If so, she really should, because she had a good reason for being late. I hope that teacher just wasn't in a good mood....
Maybe you can try telling her that it's already an amazing feat that she's doing two majors and it's normal that the timetables of the two majors won't match perfectly. I have a classmate who, just like your friend, has two majors and because of that, she has to leave early every week during one of her classes. But everybody's really supportive. As long as your friend still puts effort into that class and passes her exams, the teacher should be proud that he has a student who is willing to do more than needed to get a degree.
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