I hate that people bring drama here.

Being a person that doesn't really get involved in drama and takes the outside perspective, I hate how people are acting lately.

Like honestly, if someone posts about their problems in a blog, its because they need some comfort right then, not being bashed. Sometimes its harder to tell people in your actual life something that it is to tell people online. That's why people post that online. 

Me personally knowing this, people act differently online then they do in real life. Most cases, they act more like themself online, because they don't have to worry about judging looks, or people talking bad about them or spreading rumors or any of that crap. I do this all the time. Constantly in public I have to keep myself in check because of what people think. Yes, I am myself for the most part. Yes a lot of people say I'm one of the most confident, running-towards-their-dream, like-what-they-like-and-dont-care-what-people-say, person that they know, but I still hold back. On here, I'm able to be who I am, without having to worry about people judging me. I can love myself more, and love others. 

So why can't others do the same?

Honestly, there is no safe space anywhere. And to be honest, some of the crap people do not only in real life but online as well is ridiculous. I have to agree sometimes that with the blogs about people being depressed and whats going on in their life and all of that stuff, I sometimes just want to be like it up buttercup. Life is how it is, and no one but you can change that. But no, I step back, I don't say anything. I'm silent. I just say to myself that this is what sociaty has done. They have convinced everyone that they need a "safe space" to be in because they "can't handle the whats happening right now", and I honestly, no offence to anyone, I'm honestly not talking about anyone on here okay, I'm not targeting people I'm just letting out whats been balled up for a while, and excuse my language but I find all of that as bull . Being a person who has gone through a lot myself, and had to deal with the that I go through, I simply just don't give a . 

Just because some is happening in your life right now, does not mean you can just go and bash someone okay. Stop being childish I expect that from a 5th grader, not a grown adult. Or even the teens and tweens on here. You have no right to bash someone. Don't you throw the whole "first amendment says I have right to free speech," at me because , I'm not stable enough right now, as I'm typing, to handle you. You can plead first amendment all you ing want, that still does not say you can drag people down just so you can be pushed up. 

Now focusing on what I've seen in this site lately, What the ? I came here to be able to be around people who love kpop (just being specific I mean like, we love so much other stuff here too, but that is why i joined the site a year ago) and are here to write, read or just to socialize with others with the same interests.

Yet now I come on to find stupid fanwars, people being rude to each other, and overall hate towards everyone.

Is this what we've become? What kind of example are we presenting to new people of the kpop fandom? We are showing them that we fight between fandoms of stars that enjoy being around each other, that we hate when idols date each other, and that we overall just like to attack people on a regular basis. Honesly people. What is going on? 

I come on here everyday, and deal with fights, breakouts, hate comments, and people attacking my family on here, and I have to sit and patch up wounds that others on here have created. I sit there and I listen to my friends problems, whats going on in their lives here, and at home, and I see the link between why people do things, why sometimes they just need to share they're problems. Yet they can't seem to do that because people on here staight up attack them for no reason.  Sit the down, and shut the up if you even get the thought of speaking to someone unkindly on here. And if you do fight, keep it private between you and that person and resolve it yourself. Don't bring others into it or post something in a public blog. Just don't do it. You're asking to be attacked so you can play the victum.

And with fanwars, just sit the down and back off. One of the biggest fanwars I know is between ARMY and EXO-L. Being and ARMY and an EXO-L from the start, I can't believe what my two fandoms are doing. You see on youtube, fandoms linking together to help each other, like the giant link of ARMY, ONCE, and Blinks. Why can't EXO-Ls and ARMY do this? Any time I see either on a voting screen I AUTOMATICALLY vote for both. Even if I have to refresh and do it twice. I vote for both. So why do we have to fight? Why do people have to attack each other over a BAND. Like, don't get me wrong, kpop is my life, my family, and my future, but do we really have to fight about groups that don't even hate each other? You see the interactions between the two and that they love each other, yet their fandoms fight? Whats the logic behind that? I am so ashamned sometimes to even call myself an ARMY or and EXO-L because of this, and I'm not the only one. So please, with every fandom. Lets no make it so that we regret joining this life.

I'll stop now before I end up with a book instead of a blog. But please, lets just end this violence on here please? If we can't stop it outside in the actual world, lets just try and stop it here first, between our fandoms, between our users, and between our friends.