R.I.P. Me
So I’ve been struggling with myself a lot lately. Yeah, this post is going to be nothing but me ranting and you all probably don’t care. But I guess I just need to get it off my chest. So I’ve been struggling a lot lately with just...everything in life. And yeah I know “Life is tough” or “Life isn’t easy, you just have to deal with it”. I’ve heard it all before. Yeah I know what life is like. I’m 27 years old, I know how ty life is and how unfair life is. I’ve heard it all and I’m honestly tired of hearing it. I know it’s all hard work and I’ve been doing my hardest to meet the expectations of everyone around me. But I don’t think I’m doing it right?
I don’t know.
It just hit me too, while I was doing laundry, that I’ve been doing everything that everyone else wants me to and not doing what I want to. Even right now while trying to get my degree, I’m not having fun. It’s not what I love and I hate to say that because I’ve spent 5 years in this field, trying to obtain a career that I really want and right now...I’m not having fun doing it. I don’t like it. I want to quit. But I’m so close and everyone tells me to just it up and finish it. But I don’t want to. I don’t want to just it up.
Can you honestly just look at a person and it up and expect them to? Sure they could but in the end they could resent you for the rest of their lives. I can’t just it up because no one else knows what I go through, or how I feel. Sure I can try to explain it to them, my parents and family. But they all think I’m just silly, or being lazy or whatever.
I really hate it.
What I love. My passion is creating things. My love is writing. My world is KPOP. And yet I don’t feel like I belong. I can’t just freely and openly talk about it because I’m judged. “Why do I like asian guys?” “They look like little girls” “You’re a e for liking asian guys who look like their 12”. These are all statements that have been said to my face. And it hurts. And my love for KPOP and writing and everything I associate with it has depleted. Why should I love and care about something that everyone hates? Discriminates against? Doesn’t even want to try and understand? Why do I want to spend the time explaining different groups and the music when I’ll just get questions like “But they’re asian? Why don’t you like white people?” “Why don’t you listen to American music?” “Do you even understand what they’re saying?”
No I don’t! But I want to. I want to learn the language, to communicate with them and fully immerse myself into the music. I like American music! Just because I don’t listen to it all the time doesn’t mean I like it. I listen to it, I sing along. I enjoy it. I’ll go to a concert of my finger singer or band if I could. I like white people too. I can find myself attracted to white people, black people, hispanic people...hell even the one-eyed one-horn flying purple people eater!
But why do I need to justify myself with why I love what I love? With why I want to do certain things? Why does it make me different? Why is it so hard to understand? I just don’t get it.
Sometimes I think about my life and how it started off great, even when I went through my anime phase. They all understood but now. Now that I’m 27 I’m expected to just forget everything else and do things to be a productive citizen of society. And it’s these responsibilities placed on me that just make me so...unbearable sometimes.
I have a friend...Kora_Khan and I’m just thinking as I write this, how I’ve projected my own responsibilities and my hatred for them onto her. I thought if she suffered with me, it would be okay. I hate that she doesn’t have to do things like me. She’s got her own issues going on and I know those are a hassle for her and she struggles daily. And I should understand and I do. I really do understand. Because lately I’ve been trying to be a better friend. A more understanding and caring friend. But I’m envious. While she works on her issues, which are no fun to go through, she doesn’t have to do the things I do. She doesn’t go to school. She doesn’t have to work because of health reasons. To me, in my eyes (though it’s not really true) she’s got such an easy life. And I want that.
I want to be able to have the time for all things I want to do. I don’t want to be forced to go to school anymore. Or attend an internship that leaves me dead inside. On a subject that I absolutely despise. I want to be a mental health counselor but I don’t want to work with people who have substance abuse issues. Who have been in jail for years, or are on probation or who have had their children taken away from them because they’re addicts. It’s not what I want. It’s not what I like. But I’m stuck with it because it’s the only thing in my area that is associated with my school.
I hate it. It’s not my passion but I’m just supposed to it up and stick it out because I’m almost done. And I am. I’m almost done and it would be stupid to just quit now. But I’d rather it be me making up this decision then others around me. I don’t have the support that so many people could have. I don’t have this friends or relationships that people lean on to get through things. Maybe I could but then here’s another issue. I don’t want to be a burden. And I feel like a lot of times I’m a burden. Or that people just don’t care. I don’t want to self-disclose anything to people because I feel like people will think I’m stupid. That my worries and concerns are not warranted and my passions are stupid (as previously mentioned because I’ve had that said to me).
I don’t live in a world where who I am is accepted. I live in a world where I’m supposed to be this certain someone. And I don’t like this world. I just want to be me.
But I don’t know how to be me anymore. I’m so lost. And everything is suffering because of it.
And I guess...that’s the end of that. Maybe one day things will be better. Hopefully. Thank you for taking the time of reading and listening to me.
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