Hate this kind of feelings .. Help me ..

Hey everyone ! 

I'm seeking for your advice on this problem of mine. 

 

 

Here I go ..
I was 17 when this guy proposed me to be his girl. He was indeed my friend, the closest guy friend that I ever had. 
I was so surprised with that because I never thought that he would see me as a girl or more than just a friend. 
The truth is, I also had a slight crush on him. Why ? Well, I also don't know it myself. 
 
So, we started secretly dating after that, act like nothing happen when our friends are around. Why ? We're shy that's why .. keke
 
But, just when I thought things turned out better for us, he suddenly ask for a break up. 
He gave a reason which is reasonable to me but I know it was a lie. I know that he just don't want to hurt my feelings if he tell me the truth.
I have a gut that he just don't have anything for me anymore but he just too scared to utter those. 
So, few days after that I read a blog that he wrote on his page with a ' I'm sorry My Girl ' as the tittle.
Those blog caught our friends attention and they started to wander who is that girl which apperently it was me.
And yes, indeed I was right about our breaking up part, it was all just what I thought. 
Yes, I was hurt but I don't take it too seriously. I just let it slide since it was all the past.
 
Since that, we hardly see each other because all of us started to go to the college and we can only have our free time on weekends.
He never contacted me even though we're clearly stated that we'll stay friends no matter what. * I love our friendship ! *
 
Then, one day, my friends and I decides to hang out at the mall and I was surprised to him there with us. 
I say " Hi " but he just give a light smile to me then he went to the others. Obviously, he was avoiding me since that.
We didn't even talk to each other, not even a word, not even standing right next to each other, and he's not even take a glance at me.
Even my friends tells me that he has change, he's not the friendly guy we had know anymore.
Maybe he's avoiding me because he felt awkwards around me but what's the reason of him treating my friends that way too ? 
So, I thought, if he want it that way then fine, I'll do it. No more talking after that meeting and acts like a stranger towards each other.
Even stranger sometimes say Hi to each other right ?! * Sigh ! *
 
So, here is my real problem. It's been almost 5 years now but not even once I had stop thinking of him.
Maybe I just missed him, I missed our friendship since I must say he is someone that I treasure the most among my friends.
Not just that, recently, he even showed up whenever I hang out with my friends after 5 years of avoiding me.
But things still the same with the way he treated my girl friends and me, always being the cocky type around us. 
He only talked to the guys and one of the girl since they're quite close to each other too. 
There is one time where I try to be friendly to him by asking how's he doing lately and he just retorts " Good. " with that fake smile on his face
and that's all. No more conversation after that until now. 
 
So what should I do ? I really can't stand this kind of thing. Acts like strangers to each other when we're actually not.
What do u think guys ? I really need your advice on this. 

 

Forgive me if it's too long .. but you get the point right ?

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lollilove #1
CLGDAMBER : Aigoo dongsaeng .. that's ok bcuz your concerns are more than enough to me .. keke ..
I'm being a good unnie right ? Hihi ..
CLGDAMBER #2
omo unni .. goshyyy i don't know if what to say but but ...
yaaaaah i don't knowwwwwwwwwww .. i haven't fall in love yet :) T.T
lollilove #3
THANK U SO MUCH FOR THIS GUYS !
IT DO HELP ME A LOT !
ALTHOUGH I KNOW IT'S KINDA HARD TO CONFRONT HIM ABOUT IT
BUT I WILL MAKE AN EFFORT FOR IT ..
BUT I'M NOT SURE I CAN MAKE IT IN THIS SHORT PERIOD ..
U SEE, WE HAD LOST CONTACT, HE EVEN DENIED ME TO BE HIS FBmates ...
ANYWAY, I WILL TRY MY BEST TO WORK THIS THING AND IF HE STILL
ACT COLD TOWARDS ME THEN IT'S A BYE BYE TO HIM RIGHT ?!
EVEN THOUGH I KNOW IT'S HARD TO DO SO ...
THANKS A LOT GUYS .. I REALLY MEAN IT.
secretmaknae101 #4
I had this happen to me but in a different type of way. My experience was I had this huge crush on this guy (He was my first love I guess) And we were really good friends like 2 peas in a pod. But one day he just stopped. Like He stopped talking to me, avoiding my texts, and acts all cocky and arrogant around my friends. It hurt my feelings a lot and it did a lot of damage to me. I tried to confront him but it didnt go as I planned...(Im not discouraging you btw. But maybe try confronting him?) And after everything that happened I forgave him over and over again. But after 3-4 years, I kind of realized something. I just needed closure, I had to let go. He didnt care anymore, so why should I anymore. It took awhile but its gone and done with. My advice to you is just try to talk/confront him, if it doesnt go out the way you planned it. He isnt worth the time :/ He isnt worth your time. Its gonna be hard but its worth the try. Also you can(optional) show him that you changed over the past 5 years. That your not the same person that you were when you guys started dating and stuff. Guys are an interesting species, we dont know what they think about. But remember this: GUYS DONT KNOW WHAT THEY WANT
Sorry if this isnt good advice :/ But I hope the best for you :) Fighting!!!
ParkMiyoung #5
The only thing you could do is talk to him privately and confront him about it. explain that you don't like the way he's acting and that you want to know the reason why...maybe it has something to do with the reason he broke up with you 5 years ago. you'll have to try to pull out the truth of him, then maybe you can move on and still be friends or even more, but if it doesn't work, I suggest you try to forget him. I know that that's hard since you'll never really forget him, but at least you got to move on. Just don't dwell on it too long, if he doesn't wanna talk and still act that way, he just isn't worth your time. You can just go on and live your life. I wish you good luck! let me know what happened
Moony_Kat #6
I'm not sure if there's anything that you could do there. I mean, me and my ex boyfried were like twins before we got together, but when we broke up he said the same thing to me "Of course we'll remain friends! There's no way I could give up on that!" But then we met again and he started avoiding me even if I was relaxed around him...
Guys are strange. They can not be the same with a girl they broke up with. So we need to get over them on our own and not think about it. A guy friend is dangerous. I know that there are many relationships ike that between men and women, but I really believe there can be a true friendship relationship, with no puppy loves. So my advice is to try get over him. Try to act around him like he does around him. Be cool! Show him you'r eno longer the same girl he knew...change yourself and show him a different you. You'll be alright and you'll manage to survive without him :)
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