Question :'(

So I need an answer to my problem. This guy and I have been talking nearly daily for three months. He started not talking as much and then it got to the point where he might not see my message for a while and possibly not even respond after he did see it. 

I am at the point where I'm feeling like he doesn't care anymore. Like I was a momentary distraction and now I'm not needed. Lately, I was nearly always the one to message him first. So I finally decided I wasn't going to message him and see if he finally missed me or something....well, that was three days ago and he hasn't said a word. 

Tell me. Have any of you been in this type of situation? How does someone go from talking for hours with someone to not even sending a hello for three days? Are there any guys on here that can answer this for me? What is he thinking or feeling? What is he doing??

This feels like my past repeating itself. Someone will seem to like me, like spending time with me, and then just stop. Like I'm not interesting or good enough. What is wrong with me that this keeps happening?

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Titanik #1
You are the way you are supposed to be. You don't have to change for anybody. There is NOTHING wrong with you! The guy might be having some troubles or might be busy with things that really stress him and is more important right now.(not saying you're not important in the guy's life) e.g.: having troubles with his job, pay the rent, health issues, family problems, drastic grade drop, etc... You should maybe try talking about this issue in real life if you need more help. *sends virtual hugs because I can't hug you in rl* Here are quotes that really inspire me!!!

Nobody can hurt me without my permission.– Mahatma Gandhi
(Don't give yourself permission btw.)

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Giving up is what kills people. - Alucard (Hellsing)

No matter how deep the night, it always turns into day, eventually. - Brook (One Piece)

For more check this site (it's the one where I took the Gandhi one) http://www.livin3.com/30-of-the-most-inspiring-quotes-for-positivity-and-strength

Have strenght! Hwaiting~
jackookie
#2
no don't be too insecure about yourself, they don't know you well, and don't be afraid to find some new people to talk to, just ask him why did he do that to you, if he doesn't answer it then fine just ignore him, you are who you are, so don't mind about them okay, be strong love ❤️
damnationSUruck
#3
This isn't advice, but I'd personally ask the person directly if anything is wrong, and if I'd done or said something out of place for them to be acting like this. It's always best to confront the problem before jumping to conclusions. I hope this helps you figure out a way around it!
sungmin101
#4
Yeah this happened to me and I guess is still happening. I'm still waiting for him to say something. Sorry I couldn't give advice :(((((((
THATXXXXX #5
Yeah ive been there before. It didnt much but still yeah. .
mjup10969
#6
THE BOY THEORY, okay idk honestly and i cant really help either due to how often i can get on now...
im sorry but i hope things work out
violet99
#7
I have both been in your position and put other people in that position. He may be having a hard time. You can try asking if he is okay. I always felt better when people noticed that I wasn't being myself. He may also have moved on or something like that. Don't feel like you aren't worth it or anything. People change and it's just something that happens. If things don't go well, then remember that he is the one that isn't enough for you. Good luck.
beeviparmy
#8
I've been in the guy's position before in your situation.
I was friends with a guy at school and we texted for ages, through lunch, dinner and the night...etc.
But I began texting him back less and less because I was struggling with school and some health issues, and I felt too awkward texting him, because I wouldn't know how to explain why I wasn't texting him as much.
He actually asked me at school whether he had done something wrong and I apologised, trying to explain as best as I could face to face.
And that was the end of the problem really.
We still text each other even though I've moved schools since then, and he's one of my friends.
So basically, don't worry~! I'm sure there's a reason why he's not texting you as much, and I suggest you ask him if something's wrong (since I didn't realise at the time how much I had affected my friend) (and if you see him at school or on a regular basis I recommend talking rather than texting)
I hope this helped :) And anyways, remember that you ARE good enough ^^
CloudYoonAddictMVPDO
#9
I know how that feels :/ it truly
I have this friend with whome i've been friends for about 6 years and a half . We used to talk day and night and we seemed to never get bored of each other's company. He used to be the first one to text and ask about how my day went and other numerous things. We talked till late hours of the night and for hours none stop. But about a year ago he started to text lesser and even if i text him he takes sometimes over a week to reply. I hate that but I've learned to live with it because sometimes everyone needs some space, there comes a time in your life when you are so fed up and hate the way things are happening in your life and you'll have no desire to talk to anyone even if that person is important to you (it happened to me a couple of times XD).
I actually talked it out with him and he assured me that we are fine and our friendship is still going strong and he didn't mean to ignore me, it was just he was going through some rough time and problems have been piling up. Sadly a few of those problems are still unresolved but he still takes time to talk to me for hours at least once a week and im grateful for that.
Sometimes life . we grow up, life gets busier, we drift apart and no longer have time for each other but i try my best to keep in touch with that idiot because he never fails to make me smile and feel better about everything :)
Craxie
#10
I know how you feel... I thought we were great friends and we talked for 1 year, and now that she and her old friend became good friends again, we.... didnt even talk as much now. Even when I asks her qn while she was online, she would always reply me after a few hrs, or maybe not as well. And it just felt like I am the extra one there, I dont even know what to talk to her about anymore..
eunhye13
#11
I think u should send him a message about a thing that meant a lot to u. I mean an event. Like u beat the class's nerd n u were shocked so much. Sth like that. N see if he responds. If he doesn't, dont bother talking to him. But if u want to continue talking to him, then ask if he's okay or sth
Demitria_Teague #12
I've had this problem before. You were right when you said that you were a momentary distraction. Unfortunately, they do that. Use to until their done, then disappear. It hurts and it's wrong. But they do it. YOU aren't the problem. They are. And you deserve better. I know it hurts, but they aren't worth wasting time on. You were right to stop texting them. You shouldn't have to beg for someones time. If they cared you'd be on their mind and they wouldn't be able to get you out of their heads. They naturally would keep in contact. I'm sorry you're going through this and I wish you luck.
johnjaebaby #13
There's nothing wrong with you.
There maybe excuses like he's too busy and whatnot. But from my past experience, if he's care enough with you, he'll tell you even for once if he's busy or if he's not able to reply to you messages. Like he'd tell you, "hey I'm gonna be busy this week and maybe it'll take time for me to reply to your chats" blablabla.
Sure if you want to wait for him for a few days that's okay. But please don't wait too long as it will only wastw your time.
Dear, I know it's hard. But I'm pretty sure if he's the right one for you, he'll come to you very soon. If not, then let him go. You deserve someone better than him.
I'm sorry if my comment is too harsh or you don't find it helpful. I hope it'll get better soon :)
sleepingprince
#14
I think everyone is different. I know that some people run out of topic to talk . They seems very friendly and talkative at the beginning but suddenly become quiet and out of topic as time past. I think maybe he give his all in the beginning that he lose the balancing ? Some people are like that but they dont mean harm . Thry just thought that maybe you have know them enough to see the other side of them .. A more cold side . It can also mean that he want some space cause being too closed and repeating the same thing makes the sprak and curiousity die down. Like if you know everything and too much about the person then what is there to know or share anymore unless if you decided to bring things up to another level .. So its hard to say there can be other factors as well . Basically just my opinion . Hope things get better for both of you .
Babygigi #15
First and formost there is nothing wrong with you.
There may be many factors as to why this is happening. He may be busy and may not have as much time to talk to you that much anymore, he may be going through some things which make him hesitant to talk to you or he could also think that things are casual so he may feel that he does not really need to reply to you immediately. There are frankly many reasons but I honestly think that if you wait a few days and if he does not reply to you then confront him and tell him how you feel because he will not know unless you tell him.
I hope this helps a bit but Fighting!!!!!